Out of Pod Experience

Titled uh oh because I'm about to ask relationship advice on the EvE forums.

My partner and I have been together for 3 years now, we've had our ups and downs like most people but perhaps more often than most people due to circumstances.

We've recently been having a very back and forth together/not together thing going on and it has taken much coercing to finally get a solid reason as to the frustration and pain we have been going through from my partner as all of this is being caused by them. I was going to emit a large chunk but I will include what has taken place over the last week, it is an optional read and I'll continue more of my question after.

Begin TL;DR

Wednesday we get into a large fight, many angry words are thrown from both parties and we mutually break up in a rage. My mind frame is they are cheating (they have before, and I've been told many unsettling things through the grapevine but I have always given my trust and benefit of the doubt) and they have been nothing but a ****** the last couple months attempting to make me leave them so that they can play the sob story and be with who they really want.

Thursday goes by, we don't speak.

Friday comes and they call me, crying, BEGGING me not to leave. They insist they are not cheating, and I think I believe them, perhaps I am assuming the worst and jumping to conclusions. They say how much they love me and would move in with me in a heart beat (a topic of discussion in the past). I go against all advice from outside parties who know them (this person has been effectively on and off putting me through hell for three years but I still love them, some f'd up case of Stockholm syndrome?) I get back together with them.

Sunday night we go out to eat at an expensive restaurant, laughing and talking the whole time. Things seem back to normal, perhaps better than before. A lot of great sex afterwards and words of love.

Monday night I receive a long apologetic break up text as I'm pulling into work. This time instead of outraged I'm heartbroken as I was in the mind set of things being better than before and what I was going to do to be a better partner than ever. I was completely blindsided. Bullshit reasons were given. They still want to do things we had planned as if we were a couple. I get confused, upset, angry but take the blow. It was a very long night at work.

Tuesday comes and I tell them how I feel like garbage, throat swollen very sick. They tell me, "Oh you might want to go to the doctor asap to make sure I didn't give you strepped throat, I was technically contagious over the weekend." My thoughts, "YOU BLEEPING BLEEP, BLEEP BLEEP" I don't respond, I always try to take the higher road and I am trying to learn to control my anger that has become a major issue now that it isn't accepted the way it was when I was active in the Marines.

I begin feeling as though I am being strung along while they look for something better and if they don't I am here to fall back on. I can not do that, it hurts and is f'ing with my head so I confront them and admit this.

End TL;DR

Current time. They have finally told me that the only way they know themselves is with me anymore, and they need time to figure out who they are as themselves. I think this is fine and I agree, I need to do the same honestly. We do not know how long this time apart will last.

I do know we are two very different people, from music taste to goals and ideals. For example, they do not like my tattoos but my tattoos are a huge part of my life, I have a full body suit that cost more than a lot of my friends vehicles. At one point they even told me they don't know if they'll be able to be seen in public with me in the summer because people will be afraid of us. What is this the 1500s? I can go a long time on our differences but I think that is a strong example.

My question is, I've taken breaks before and you don't get back together. Do you think is more along the lines of a 'break' or are do we actually have a chance to get back together? We both still love each other but I feel our time is coming to an end... Perhaps it has run it's natural course and if that's the case then I can't think of a better way for it to end. Still hurts though.

Thank you for letting me rant/get that out.

Same as above, not an expert so feel free to ignore, but what i see from that is that your partner is not fine with you/ the relationship as is.
You will have to do some serious re-evaluating your position in the relationship and the relationships position in your lives.
You should not supress your anger completely and stay silent. Express it to your partner in a mild or slightly accelerated manner (Remember disciprine), but do not go silent.

Also i'm i an idiot or what do you mean by "them"?

I meant my partner, not multiple people sorry for the confusion.

I agree. I've talked about this with a couple friends at work and they say I need stop trying to please everyone else all of the time and need to make myself happy. I think what will be best is to simply acknowledge it has run its course. It will be hard though, three years is a long time and even though I know things are coming to an end it is hard to let go. I think they may be feeling the same way. Also I agree with you Ragnar. Following that advice the next time we both can I will communicate what I said above.

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