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Love this game but afraid to commit
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Michael Ruckert
Hohere Kavallerie-Kommando
#21 - 2014-07-11 02:17:18 UTC
OP you have a job, a university degree and are married. Put on your Big Boy pants, stop whining, and Man Up. Your life has changed. Time to adjust to your new priorities. Don't go Millennial on us here.

"No matter how well you perform there's always somebody of intelligent opinion who thinks it's lousy." - Laurence Olivier
Corven Tereghen
Deep Core Mining Inc.
Caldari State
#22 - 2014-07-11 02:25:13 UTC
Michael Ruckert wrote:
OP you have a job, a university degree and are married. Put on your Big Boy pants, stop whining, and Man Up. Your life has changed. Time to adjust to your new priorities. Don't go Millennial on us here.

What priorities? Making babies, then arranging my burial plot and will? Marriage, job and education are not mutually exclusive to gaming.

Unless you meant it in the other 'play whatever games you want' way. Which would be awesome.
Alavaria Fera
GoonWaffe
#23 - 2014-07-11 02:26:38 UTC
I think it was a joke about eve online

Triggered by: Wars of Sovless Agression, Bending the Knee, Twisting the Knife, Eating Sov Wheaties, Bombless Bombers, Fizzlesov, Interceptor Fleets, Running Away, GhostTime Vuln, Renters, Bombs, Bubbles ?
Sibyyl
Garoun Investment Bank
Gallente Federation
#24 - 2014-07-11 05:47:10 UTC
Corven Tereghen wrote:
My wife *just* tolerates me being a gamer

If playing games is a part of who you are, then maybe she should learn to love it.

Joffy Aulx-Gao for CSM. Fix links and OGB. Ban stabs from plexes. Fulfill karmic justice.
Kaarous Aldurald
Black Hydra Consortium.
#25 - 2014-07-11 05:57:02 UTC
Sibyyl wrote:
Corven Tereghen wrote:
My wife *just* tolerates me being a gamer

If playing games is a part of who you are, then maybe she should learn to love it.


I lucked out, I have a gamer wife.

"Verily, I have often laughed at the weaklings who thought themselves good because they had no claws."

One of ours, ten of theirs.

Best Meltdown Ever.
Inxentas Ultramar
Ultramar Independent Contracting
#26 - 2014-07-11 06:21:02 UTC  |  Edited by: Inxentas Ultramar
It matters a lot what corp you join. I have a busy life too and while granted, I do not have a wife, I have a thriving social life outside of Eve too, and a 40hr job paying for all that. I once made the mistake of starting a corp, but two years later we're still here, and it seems to go rather well. Perhaps because all of us have a RL-first mentality? Wife aggro is a common reason people have to leave a fleet. If the group you are flying with cannot respect this then **** them. It's that simple.
Yarda Black
The Black Redemption
#27 - 2014-07-11 06:41:54 UTC
Corven Tereghen wrote:

TL;DR: Grown man struggles with real life commitments interfering with playing EVE to a level acceptable to him. Can he play at this level or should he biomass and GTFO?


I have RL issues. A lot of them at the moment. Most people run into stuff sooner or later. At the moment I cant even log on (time) and the majority of my account are going down (money). My current influence on EVE is.... this.

As for the implications of that; I agree with Inxentas.

So thats two corps that can deal with RL already.

I think you'll be fine m8
Ralph King-Griffin
New Eden Tech Support
#28 - 2014-07-11 07:10:16 UTC
Cipher Jones wrote:
LUMINOUS SPIRIT wrote:
Its not really worth it. EVE is only really worth it of you are part of an established group and play regularly. Not much solo / casual content.

Factional warfare is really for organized small gangs;

RvB is a bunch of bitter vets farming noob players out of boredom;

High sec gets boring rather quickly if you solo


Except for the shitload of casual and solo content, yeah for sure.

Yeah, ignore luminous.

Murderers of Negotiable Motivations

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Don Purple
Snuggle Society
Test Alliance Please Ignore
#29 - 2014-07-11 07:44:03 UTC
Corven Tereghen wrote:
[whine]

TL;DR: Grown man struggles with real life commitments interfering with playing EVE to a level acceptable to him. Can he play at this level or should he biomass and GTFO?

Not sure if I need a shrink or just a good smack in the jaw, but I have this problem that’s bothering me: I wish I could bring myself to play this game for real (ex. joining a corp and fleeting up), but I can’t.

Half the problem is my outside commitments. My wife *just* tolerates me being a gamer, other games get jealous when I hang out with MMOs, and my job happens to pay for all those games. I feel like those would cut too much out of the commitment needed to be useful in a corp. I’m not even talking about the herculean levels of commitment that hardcore players have, like logging in at 3am their time to defend a POS coming out of reinforced. I’m talking about small FW roams and weekend mining ops in 0.5. I don’t think I can hack it without ditching my wife, cutting work early, and/or making EVE the only game I play.

The other half of the problem is social. I don’t know a single person who plays this game and all my attempts to encourage my few gaming friends to play have failed. That means I have to find a corp who will surely put me—a relatively experienced player with a new account—under a lot of scrutiny for being a possible AWOXer. I was once kicked from a corp on another character for suspicion of being a thief; this made it very hard to join other corps because my only references thought I had stolen their stuff. I don’t want a repeat performance of that.

The one time I successfully played EVE with a corp, it went from being an empire mining corp to heading up a 0.0 alliance; I played for almost two years before the corp collapsed and it was the greatest time I’ve ever had in game. Back then I was single and living off my university funds; it was easy to play for 6 hours a day if I wanted. Now, every time I try to restart I just end up going it alone and quitting from boredom two months later because I’m afraid to commit to a corp.

Are my glory days lost to me?

[/whine]

You have a friend in ol Don Purple.
I have a wife (tolerates eve) a small child, a full time job and a motorcycle. I find time for all of it. Im in null, wh, and highsec corps.

I am just here to snuggle and do spy stuff.
Mina Sebiestar
Minmatar Inner Space Conglomerate
#30 - 2014-07-11 09:12:46 UTC
Time is always an issue few ways to remedy it

Time machine so you can go back to eating pickles and playing eve 12+h a day

play at work

work from home

cut work days from 20d a month to 10d

become a rich overnight and similar scenarios...

if none of above.....then deal with it.

You choke behind a smile a fake behind the fear

Because >>I is too hard
Wierd Beard
Imperium Technologies
Sigma Grindset
#31 - 2014-07-11 09:29:46 UTC
Ole EvE is a harsh mistress. And if you're doing it right, it'll take up just as much time, effort and frustration as cheating on your barely tolerant wife. But rather than catching an STD, making inadvertent children or losing half your stuff when you get caught, you might experience some fleeting moments of greatness amongst a small subset of an enormous community that you'll lovingly polish in your memories like a golden turd. Also, if you're lucky you'll make some pretty interesting and diverse friends.

If that's worth it, buy your +5 implants and get to isk grinding!
Kalishka Ashkulf
Sebiestor Tribe
Minmatar Republic
#32 - 2014-07-11 09:35:26 UTC
Kaarous Aldurald wrote:
Sibyyl wrote:
Corven Tereghen wrote:
My wife *just* tolerates me being a gamer

If playing games is a part of who you are, then maybe she should learn to love it.


I lucked out, I have a gamer wife.


I'm in a similar boat that both my partner and I are gamers. She's not much into Eve though, despite my efforts. That said, she has stared at my screen sometimes and seen flashing reds on the overview and pointing out the obvious "You're in s*** now girl!" (Yep, that's what I wanted, running commentary on exactly how dead I'm going to be in the foreseeable future lol)

As for the OP, I noticed when hunting around for Corps through the recruitment channel and Corp search, there are a number of Corps who advertise a policy of real life comes first. If in doubt, as someone from the corp if that's a policy they have, and explain your login times. Also, the Corp search window has a sliding scale of what hours you can play.

Why, thank you, Thing!
Kagura Nikon
Native Freshfood
Minmatar Republic
#33 - 2014-07-11 10:11:19 UTC  |  Edited by: Kagura Nikon
Hint.. if your job pays for those games, then at your free time do whatever you WANT. If you fear your wife can barely tolerate you are a gamer, you have a larger problem in your life than commitment to a game.

Separate tiem for her, time for work, time for house, time for YOUR OWN FUN. At your own time no one in the freackign universe should interfere. IF she does not liek it. then demand her own schedule and start to cut things because ...

I have a grand total of 1 free hour per day after an extremely extenuous job under pressure where if something goes wrong and is not fixed soon someone might die. I wil do whatever I want in that time because I EARNED that right!

Since I can play only that amount , that excluded me from worm hole and 0.0 blob warfare (to be on the later I would also have to suffer from some sort of mental illness), but I coudl find things to do that do nto require more than that time

"If brute force does not solve your problem....  then you are  surely not using enough!"
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