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Why are many people on these forums so negative, and so hostile?

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flakeys
Doomheim
#261 - 2014-02-27 13:44:08 UTC
To answer the OP it is quite simple , the average age of eve players is rather high.

As such most have a job , a wife , kids , basically anything that screws up your life and then to top it off a lot of us are around the 'midlife crises age' .

We are all born ignorant, but one must work hard to remain stupid.

Riyria Twinpeaks
Perkone
Caldari State
#262 - 2014-02-27 13:50:49 UTC  |  Edited by: Riyria Twinpeaks
Divine Entervention wrote:
Riyria Twinpeaks wrote:
I think Tippia's point is that the information is "people stating that they choose to steal from others in a game".
You don't seem to assign any importance to the "in a game" part, but I don't think that's quite right.


The only real aspect of eve is how we treat each other. Despite the action taking place "in game" the person making that choice is "out of game". None of us can truly be in the game. It's online. inside computers. I can't fit in my modem.

The reality of the situation is that we're all real people making real choices. The consequences might take place in an imaginary made up land, but the reality is, those actions are happening because people choose to make them happen, and their taking place is inside the internet, but the intention is to effect and potentially affect the other person the chosen actions are being made against.


But if the consequences of an action differ based on whether the action happens in a game or not, then the decision-making which led to the action may be different as well.

So, let's make an extreme example:
- The consequence of losing your property in a game is that you need to do some more quests/missions to regain the property, but you are having fun doing missions anyway.
- The consequence of losing your property outside the game is that you fall in debts, need an additional job and suffer a considerable loss of your quality of life for a long time.

Then stealing from you in a game can be considered a trivial offense compared to stealing from you outside of the game.

Now while the example was extreme, there is still a difference, so imo you can't necessarily reason that people choosing to do the first, would also do the latter.
Riyria Twinpeaks
Perkone
Caldari State
#263 - 2014-02-27 13:54:11 UTC  |  Edited by: Riyria Twinpeaks
oops.. sorry. wrong button :x
Tippia
Sunshine and Lollipops
#264 - 2014-02-27 13:55:17 UTC  |  Edited by: Tippia
Divine Entervention wrote:
regarding prejudice, I gave you the exact definition and correlated how my statements are not prejudiced.
You only showed that the first step of your statements are not prejudiced. You conveniently skipped over the part where you turn these contextual observations into a judgement of the real-world character and moral of the person.

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I've made no claims against any specific individuals without evidence.
Aside from…
“ if you're willing to attempt to try and inflict losses on other people who are not looking to competitively wager their resources against yours, then you are also capable of trying to inflict losses on people offline as well.”
“Thief in game, thief out as well.”
“I think it's pretty obvious the type of person you are. One not worth interacting with.”
“When you choose to force unwanted pvp on someone, that's what defines you as negative, lesser person.”
“[ı] believe that your desire to be mean to others, based on you making those choices in a game that is all about choices, is a perfectly valid platform for me to make an assumption on your character as a person.”
“I, while standing in the middle of the pile of garbage that is the personas you wish to project, will consider myself above you for choosing to partake in the actions of the petty.”
“You are the representation of your actions.”
“It makes you a terrible person because you don't have to do it.”
“if you're a person who's objective is to inflict misery and suffering on others for your personal gain, you are lesser human being, an animal unworthy of this gift of consciousness and human intelligence.”
“I'll concern myself with those who've proven to be good, worthy, respectable people.”
“People who do bad things are bad people.”

…and I'm not even a quarter through the list. All of these are made without evidence. All of them are just you spouting your deeply ignorant and unproven assumptions in the form of judgement over people's character. All of it is prejudice.

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Also keep in mind people stating that they choose to steal from others counts as information
…about what they do in game. It tells you nothing about the character of the person unless you can provide a plausible and solid causal chain that connect the two. You can't. You just assume. You pre-judge based on something irrelevant.

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The reality of the situation is that we're all real people making real choices.
…about their actions in a game. Those actions have no bearing on their character outside of the game. If you want to claim something about their character based on their in-game behaviour, you have to establish a connection between the two, which you can't.
Jenn aSide
Worthless Carebears
The Initiative.
#265 - 2014-02-27 13:55:56 UTC
Dude, did you really just link something from WnD ( a seriously crackpot right wing site that makes all of us of that particular political orientation look like raving lunatics) as proof of something?

That's like trying to prove something by linking a National Enquirer or Onion article. Hell, the Onion would be a more credible source.

To everyone else, do people like this know they're batshit crazy or is it just us?
Divine Entervention
Doomheim
#266 - 2014-02-27 14:01:38 UTC  |  Edited by: Divine Entervention
Riyria Twinpeaks wrote:
Divine Entervention wrote:
Riyria Twinpeaks wrote:
I think Tippia's point is that the information is "people stating that they choose to steal from others in a game".
You don't seem to assign any importance to the "in a game" part, but I don't think that's quite right.


The only real aspect of eve is how we treat each other. Despite the action taking place "in game" the person making that choice is "out of game". None of us can truly be in the game. It's online. inside computers. I can't fit in my modem.

The reality of the situation is that we're all real people making real choices. The consequences might take place in an imaginary made up land, but the reality is, those actions are happening because people choose to make them happen, and their taking place is inside the internet, but the intention is to effect and potentially affect the other person the chosen actions are being made against.


But if the consequences of an action differ based on whether the action happens in a game or not, then the decision-making which led to the action may be different as well.

So, let's make an extreme example:
- The consequence of losing your property in a game is that you need to do some more quests/missions to regain the property, but you are having fun doing missions
- The consequence of losing your property outside the game is that you fall in debts, need an additional job and suffer a considerable loss of your quality of life for a long time

Then stealing from you in a game can be considered a trivial offense compared to stealing from you outside of the game.

Now while the example was extreme, there is still a difference, so imo you can't necessarily reason that people choosing to do the first, would also do the latter.


You are correct. I cannot state that someone who has stolen from me in game will steal from me out of game.

I cannot possibly predict the future. I cannot possibly know absolutely everything someone is capable of.

What I can do though, is say that based off of all the interactions I've had with a certain person, that at a specific point of time, they chose to exploit me for their personal enjoyment or benefit. At my expense. Now, as we've established, I cannot "know" that they will do this to me in person.

What I can know is this:

That this person is the type who makes the choice to exploit me. How far does it stretch? Is it a gaurantee he'll do it out of game as well? No, of course not. But so far, he's evidenced to me once already that he's capable of dehumanizing me in one context. Knowing I can't know everything, how can I say for certain that he will not do it "again" out of game as well?

It's playing it safe. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice... well sorry, there will be no twice, you've proven you're not worthy of an opportunity for a "shame on me" ever under any circumstance. We're done. In and Out.
Divine Entervention
Doomheim
#267 - 2014-02-27 14:05:22 UTC
Tippia wrote:
Divine Entervention wrote:
regarding prejudice, I gave you the exact definition and correlated how my statements are not prejudiced.
You only showed that the first step of your statements are not prejudiced. You conveniently skipped over the part where you turn these contextual observations into a judgement of the real-world character and moral of the person.

Quote:
I've made no claims against any specific individuals without evidence.
Aside from…
“ if you're willing to attempt to try and inflict losses on other people who are not looking to competitively wager their resources against yours, then you are also capable of trying to inflict losses on people offline as well.”
“Thief in game, thief out as well.”
“I think it's pretty obvious the type of person you are. One not worth interacting with.”
“When you choose to force unwanted pvp on someone, that's what defines you as negative, lesser person.”
“[ı] believe that your desire to be mean to others, based on you making those choices in a game that is all about choices, is a perfectly valid platform for me to make an assumption on your character as a person.”
“I, while standing in the middle of the pile of garbage that is the personas you wish to project, will consider myself above you for choosing to partake in the actions of the petty.”
“You are the representation of your actions.”
“It makes you a terrible person because you don't have to do it.”
“if you're a person who's objective is to inflict misery and suffering on others for your personal gain, you are lesser human being, an animal unworthy of this gift of consciousness and human intelligence.”
“I'll concern myself with those who've proven to be good, worthy, respectable people.”
“People who do bad things are bad people.”

…and I'm not even a quarter through the list. All of these are made without evidence. All of them are just you spouting your deeply ignorant and unproven assumptions in the form of judgement over people's character. All of it is prejudice.

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Also keep in mind people stating that they choose to steal from others counts as information
…about what they do in game. It tells you nothing about the character of the person unless you can provide a plausible and solid causal chain that connect the two. You can't. You just assume. You pre-judge based on something irrelevant.

Quote:
The reality of the situation is that we're all real people making real choices.
…about their actions in a game. Those actions have no bearing on their character outside of the game. If you want to claim something about their character based on their in-game behaviour, you have to establish a connection between the two, which you can't.


Potentially, every one of those statements could be correct. I explain the reasoning in my last post. You may, no you've probably already read it.
Tippia
Sunshine and Lollipops
#268 - 2014-02-27 14:07:20 UTC  |  Edited by: Tippia
Divine Entervention wrote:
What I can do though, is say that based off of all the interactions I've had with a certain person, that at a specific point of time, they chose to exploit me for their personal enjoyment or benefit. At my expense. Now, as we've established, I cannot "know" that they will do this to me in person.

What I can know is this:

That this person is the type who makes the choice to exploit me.
…in the game, all in accordance with the established rules of that game, which provides you with no basis for rendering any kind of judgement about the morals or character of the person.

His choice to do exploit you in this game is no different from his choice to bluff you in poker, and tells you exactly as much about his out-of-game character: squat.

Quote:
Potentially, every one of those statements could be correct.
“Could be” isn't good enough to render any kind of judgement. You just flat-out assume that they are with no basis for it. This makes your conclusions and your claims prejudiced.
Divine Entervention
Doomheim
#269 - 2014-02-27 14:13:43 UTC
Tippia wrote:
It tells you nothing about the character of the person unless you can provide a plausible and solid causal chain that connect the two. You can't. You just assume. You pre-judge based on something irrelevant.

If you steal from me, it proves that at one point in time you made the choice to act on your desire to steal from me for your personal benefit. That's not an assumption, that's a fact. If you steal from me, you stole from me.

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about their actions in a game. Those actions have no bearing on their character outside of the game. If you want to claim something about their character based on their in-game behaviour, you have to establish a connection between the two, which you can't.


This is where you are wrong again. Those actions have no bearing on their character outside of the game?

Not necessarily. Someone who chooses to steal from people in EVE could very well be a thief out of game as well. There is no 100% way to prove that the person is not also a thief out of game as well. Now considering when I make my choices as to who i do and do not wish to associate with, because you've stolen from me, you've already given me proof that you will make the choice to steal. I cannot say that since you stole from me in game, you will not steal from me out of game. You can't say that either.

if I stole from you, who is to say I wouldn't steal from you out of game as well?

Because of this uncertainty, all I have to make my decisions are how you've presented yourself to me. Well, you've already demonstrated on occassion that you will take my things and laugh at me, calling me stupid for trusting you. Should I really take the chance to trust you in person as well? What if it's still all just a game to you? I cannot know it. It's impossible to know, so to make the decisions which will best protect me from possible grief, I have to not trust you. To do so would be, imo, really stupid.
Benny Ohu
Royal Amarr Institute
Amarr Empire
#270 - 2014-02-27 14:16:10 UTC
grr tippia, asking for people to substantiate their statements, and giving them every opportunity to do so
Haraukiae Youik
University of Caille
Gallente Federation
#271 - 2014-02-27 14:18:37 UTC  |  Edited by: Haraukiae Youik
This topic has obviously taken on a life of its own.

CCP has been successful imo in engineering its players into the types of play styles that you now find in EVE. I once happened on a post that showed 1 person with multiple accounts and screens -- just the type you would find on a hi sec gate camping. Whether or not there were other extra mechanical means being used is only speculative.

The game was very much different from even just 5 years ago. There was more of a sense of positive community very much due to a desire for the game to succeed. That has now completely been lost as the focus is on how everyone can sc*** over everyone else.

About 2 more weeks and I'm gone.

Most likely will check back in a year to see whatever.

Ô souvenirs d'autrefois
doux souvenirs du pays
O souvenirs chéris


PS --Just running on fumes.
Tippia
Sunshine and Lollipops
#272 - 2014-02-27 14:21:30 UTC  |  Edited by: Tippia
Divine Entervention wrote:
If you steal from me, it proves that at one point in time you made the choice to act on your desire to steal from me for your personal benefit. That's not an assumption, that's a fact. If you steal from me, you stole from me.
…and no matter how much you try to dodge the fact, you still can't render any judgment on the character of the person based on this in-game event.

Quote:
This is where you are wrong again. Those actions have no bearing on their character outside of the game?
Not unless you can establish a solid connection between the two, which you can't.

Quote:
Not necessarily. Someone who chooses to steal from people in EVE could very well be a thief out of game as well.
…and that would be a neat coincidence. Coincidence and “not necessarily” are not a solid foundation for making generalised claims about people across the magic circle. You have to establish that there is an actual connection and that it holds true for everything but the most exceptional and exceedingly rare cases. Until you do, all you have is assumptions that such a connection exists — coincidences don't make them any less so — and any judgment you make is inherently prejudiced.

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if I stole from you, who is to say I wouldn't steal from you out of game as well?
Since there is no reason to suspect that you're not a moral and upstanding person with a sense of right and wrong, I'd say that you wouldn't for much the same reason I don't go around assuming that random people would steal from me.

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Well, you've already demonstrated on occassion that you will take my things and laugh at me, calling me stupid for trusting you.
No. You've only demonstrated that you beat me in a game.
Riyria Twinpeaks
Perkone
Caldari State
#273 - 2014-02-27 14:22:25 UTC
Divine Entervention wrote:
(...)

You are correct. I cannot state that someone who has stolen from me in game will steal from me out of game.

I cannot possibly predict the future. I cannot possibly know absolutely everything someone is capable of.

What I can do though, is say that based off of all the interactions I've had with a certain person, that at a specific point of time, they chose to exploit me for their personal enjoyment or benefit. At my expense. Now, as we've established, I cannot "know" that they will do this to me in person.

What I can know is this:

That this person is the type who makes the choice to exploit me. How far does it stretch? Is it a gaurantee he'll do it out of game as well? No, of course not. But so far, he's evidenced to me once already that he's capable of dehumanizing me in one context. Knowing I can't know everything, how can I say for certain that he will not do it "again" out of game as well?

It's playing it safe. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice... well sorry, there will be no twice, you've proven you're not worthy of an opportunity for a "shame on me" ever under any circumstance. We're done. In and Out.


That's fair enough, I guess.
As long as you're not going around accusing them of being "people who steal" without context or stuff like that.
Eternum Praetorian
Doomheim
#274 - 2014-02-27 14:28:59 UTC  |  Edited by: Eternum Praetorian
I cannot be goaded into linking an even larger wall of text than I already have. There is far to much content on the interwebs to do so.


Anyone who has even a passing interest can read all about sociopaths and their interactions on the Internet. You can find it here on the Internet or at your local library. Pretending that it does not exist does not make it not exist. The information is there. If you have a differing opinion than I suggest you state your reasons why instead of trying to make others think that the reference material is non-existent.

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Divine Entervention
Doomheim
#275 - 2014-02-27 14:32:34 UTC
You can say what you want. You can view my choices as incorrect. So far you've established yourself, to me, as someone who's opinion not to take into consideration when making the choices of how I live my life.

I get to judge based off of my observations. If I observe you steal from me, I may come to whatever conclusion I see fit. I'll tell you right now ahead of time, that conclusion will be "Never trust this person under any circumstance, in game or out".

I have established a potential solid connection. Considering that it is impossible for us to fully know everything about anyone, all we can act on is the portion of information people wish to present to us.

I do not have to establish a solid connection, because it's all based on speculation. Using your logic, a wall street trader should never invest in a stock because he cannot know with 100% certainty if his expected outcome will materialize. Based on your logic, no one can speculate. What's the weather going to be tomorrow? I don't know, its february and we're in canada. My guess is really really hot? Well since we don't know for certain lets bring swim shorts and winter jackets!

using your logic, you would trust me out of game even after stealing from you in game? Well then, on an unrelated note may I borrow $200? You can pay pal it to me, I'll give you the address in a PM if you say yes.


Tippia
Sunshine and Lollipops
#276 - 2014-02-27 14:36:41 UTC
Eternum Praetorian wrote:
I cannot be goaded into linking an even larger wall of text than I already have.
So I take it you don't actually want to prove your claim, then.

The original assertion was that gankers and scammers only do it to humiliate other players. You offered a treatise (of dubious origins) about “sociopathy” on the internet. You then insinuated without proof that the two are connected, and now you're trying to shirk the responsibility to establish that one actually exists.

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Anyone who has even a passing interest can read all about sociopaths and their interactions on the Internet. You can find it here on the Internet or at your local library. Pretending that it does not exist does not make it not exist. The information is there.
Good. Then you should have absolutely no problems providing it.
Eternum Praetorian
Doomheim
#277 - 2014-02-27 14:39:34 UTC  |  Edited by: Eternum Praetorian
Tippia wrote:
Eternum Praetorian wrote:
I cannot be goaded into linking an even larger wall of text than I already have.
So I take it you don't actually want to prove your claim, then.

The original assertion was that gankers and scammers only do it to humiliate other players. You offered a treatise (of dubious origins) about “sociopathy” on the internet. You then insinuated without proof that the two are connected, and now you're trying to shirk the responsibility to establish that one actually exists.

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Anyone who has even a passing interest can read all about sociopaths and their interactions on the Internet. You can find it here on the Internet or at your local library. Pretending that it does not exist does not make it not exist. The information is there.
Good. Then you should have absolutely no problems providing it.



Sorry, I am not about to quote the content of 44,000 results in .22 seconds an the eve forums. But I do invite you to read a book anytime you like Cool

You never know what you may learn


Bai now, I'll be back to play with you further after work. Kiss <3

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Divine Entervention
Doomheim
#278 - 2014-02-27 14:41:08 UTC
Eternum Praetorian wrote:
Tippia wrote:
Eternum Praetorian wrote:
I cannot be goaded into linking an even larger wall of text than I already have.
So I take it you don't actually want to prove your claim, then.

The original assertion was that gankers and scammers only do it to humiliate other players. You offered a treatise (of dubious origins) about “sociopathy” on the internet. You then insinuated without proof that the two are connected, and now you're trying to shirk the responsibility to establish that one actually exists.

Quote:
Anyone who has even a passing interest can read all about sociopaths and their interactions on the Internet. You can find it here on the Internet or at your local library. Pretending that it does not exist does not make it not exist. The information is there.
Good. Then you should have absolutely no problems providing it.



Sorry, I am not about to quote the content of 44,000 results in .22 seconds an the eve forums. But I do invite you to read a book anytime you like Cool

You never know what you may learn


Is that what he does? Sit around and pretend he's oblivious? I see his name all over the forums. He would have to have something wrong with him if he doesn't see what is staring him in the face.

Is this for real?
Victoria Thorne
Science and Trade Institute
Caldari State
#279 - 2014-02-27 14:45:32 UTC
Divine Entervention wrote:
You can say what you want. You can view my choices as incorrect. So far you've established yourself, to me, as someone who's opinion not to take into consideration when making the choices of how I live my life.

I get to judge based off of my observations. If I observe you steal from me, I may come to whatever conclusion I see fit. I'll tell you right now ahead of time, that conclusion will be "Never trust this person under any circumstance, in game or out".

I have established a potential solid connection. Considering that it is impossible for us to fully know everything about anyone, all we can act on is the portion of information people wish to present to us.

I do not have to establish a solid connection, because it's all based on speculation. Using your logic, a wall street trader should never invest in a stock because he cannot know with 100% certainty if his expected outcome will materialize. Based on your logic, no one can speculate. What's the weather going to be tomorrow? I don't know, its february and we're in canada. My guess is really really hot? Well since we don't know for certain lets bring swim shorts and winter jackets!

using your logic, you would trust me out of game even after stealing from you in game? Well then, on an unrelated note may I borrow $200? You can pay pal it to me, I'll give you the address in a PM if you say yes.




Hmmm.. I can observe that the word Divine means "of, from, or like a God". Quetzalcoatl is a God. Quetzalcoatl demanded human sacrifice. I have now established a potential solid connection that you demand human sacrifice & are a feathered serpent, therefore I should run away screaming in terror.

I shall now run away screaming in terror. Big smile
Tippia
Sunshine and Lollipops
#280 - 2014-02-27 14:46:00 UTC  |  Edited by: Tippia
Divine Entervention wrote:
I get to judge based off of my observations.
…and no-one has claimed otherwise. What I'm saying is that if you take your observations on some specific characteristic and transpose those into a judgement of something completely unrelated, that judgement is prejudiced. It is based on nothing but your assumptions about the transposition itself.

If you want to make it something more than prejudice, you have to demonstrate that the transposition is actually accurate and that the two characteristics are somehow related.

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I have established a potential solid connection.
No, you really haven't. You've hypothesised that there might be just that: a potential for a connection. That is about as weak as it gets.

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I do not have to establish a solid connection, because it's all based on speculation.
Yes you have to, or you will have to accept the fact that it's baseless; that you're only making assumptions; that it is pure prejudice.

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Using your logic, a wall street trader should never invest in a stock because he cannot know with 100% certainty if his expected outcome will materialize. Based on your logic, no one can speculate. What's the weather going to be tomorrow?
…except, of course, that that's not my logic. That's just some strawman you just erected. The Wall Street trader can invest because he has established a pattern. The meteorologist can predict the weather because he's done the same. But more importantly: both are aware of their model and express it in terms of likelihoods.

They do not render judgement — they predict with a degree of certainty.

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using your logic, you would trust me out of game even after stealing from you in game?
Why wouldn't I? It was a game, after all, and I can trust my friends just fine even though they do that on a weekly basis.