Out of Pod Experience

....as a 2nd choice. Trust me. The Irish Brogue has you beat by a million miles

never make eye contact, or else it means you're serious
make sure you monitor vitals: look for signs of sweating, heavy breathing, flushed cheeks, check for elevated pulse. if you remember to constantly monitor pulse with your index and middle finger on the jugular, that is best, although tedious. these things are harder to fake than noises.
if you want to show you are serious, stare your partner straight in the face in silence while your souls communicate.

the highest form is one hand on the forehead, one on the neck, staring straight into their face. alternate configurations may require the use of a mirror to accomplish constant eye contact.

*achieve. achieve constant eye contact

//there is something called a pulse oximeter, it slips over the tip of a finger. it's more accurate. anything above the 110 bpm mark is good, but 130+ is heroic. they're cheap now, like $30 at wal-mart.

I have yet to find a good thermometer with a fast enough poll rate to keep up with the pulse ox

that was an epic thread, and I consider it some of my best writing

...ever. i wish there was somewhere i could turn it in for a grade

ever been with a nurse, or a medic?

To the OP, maybe she just isn't that into you? Which is another way of saying, maybe it's you?

Good attitude. You'll go far.


Not so much, no. It's both more prosaiic, and at the same time, much more fun. Don't be afraid to be playful, and don't be afraid to slow the action down, and ask questions such as "what do you want me to do?" or "whould you do this for me?"

Sex comes in a lot of flavors - almost none of it is "Hollywood," "pr0n," or "Romance Novel" flavorsed though. Unless you get REALLY lucky. Which does happen. Rarely. And seriously, who would *want* sex like that all the time?

Not so often, here, either, though you're working towards a better idea. Sex can be fast, slow, soft, violent, gentle, hard, serious, silly, or all of the above. And then some. It *is* a communication, and ideally should be a partnership. But just like you don't always talk about the same subject, you don't always screw in the same mood or way, either.

Heh! There are many pulse-points. And many ways to check them...
Lips are incredibly sensitive - Kiss a pulse point and you can generally get a good idea of what's going on. If you can seperate her pulse from yours...

EV, are you saying that this thread belongs over in "New Players Q&A"?

"New Playas"... Heh.

Not my first guess but I wouldn't say that's not the case.

Fair enough.

*self medit*

EDIT: TBH the only reason I responded in the first place is because I was trying to prevent someone from being maximally hurt. I was raised by a mother and two sisters and I always put that into my mind when ever relationships and women are 'on'...for better or worse.