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Great Article about Being Female and Gaming

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Meryl SinGarda
Belligerent Underpaid Tactical Team
#81 - 2012-11-30 01:38:53 UTC  |  Edited by: Meryl SinGarda
You know I still think it's crazy that a handful of people meander into a thread, mostly about something they've never experienced, just to share an irrelevant opinion or justify something that a decent human being wouldn't be okay with. Not just this thread, any thread that doesn't agree with the straight white male privilege.

Meaning that everything's mostly okay for you, so you don't feel any empathy for those who have less or aren't as fortunate. And you'll fight tooth and nail to keep things from shifting out of your favor.

Kinda the way the goons abhor mining or bittervets detest most WiS aspects of EVE.
James Amril-Kesh
Viziam
Amarr Empire
#82 - 2012-11-30 01:40:10 UTC
Meryl SinGarda wrote:
You know I still think it's crazy that a handful of people meander into a thread, mostly about something they've never experienced, just to share an irrelevant opinion or justify something that a decent human being wouldn't be okay with. Not just this thread, any thread that doesn't agree with the straight white male privilege.

Meaning that everything's mostly okay for you, so you don't feel any empathy for those who have less or aren't as fortunate. And you'll fight tooth and nail to keep things from shifting out of your favor.

I certainly hope you're not referring to my post.
Seeing as I wasn't justifying anything.

Enjoying the rain today? ;)

Tarvos Telesto
Blood Fanatics
#83 - 2012-11-30 01:40:19 UTC  |  Edited by: Tarvos Telesto
In most cases women prefer fantasy games where magic, dragons and sword... not SF games, personaly i meet three woman in EvE form 2006 that a lot... but its ok, i adapt to fact that more than 90% players are male, however would be cool to see more woman in game, but like i mention before, in general SF games are not woman things.

At last we got female avatatars, enjoy P

Ps. World Of darknes are potential good game for big community of goth girls ;) so wait for premiereP

EvE isn't game, its style of living.

Meryl SinGarda
Belligerent Underpaid Tactical Team
#84 - 2012-11-30 01:41:19 UTC
James Amril-Kesh wrote:
Meryl SinGarda wrote:
You know I still think it's crazy that a handful of people meander into a thread, mostly about something they've never experienced, just to share an irrelevant opinion or justify something that a decent human being wouldn't be okay with. Not just this thread, any thread that doesn't agree with the straight white male privilege.

Meaning that everything's mostly okay for you, so you don't feel any empathy for those who have less or aren't as fortunate. And you'll fight tooth and nail to keep things from shifting out of your favor.

I certainly hope you're not referring to my post.
Seeing as I wasn't justifying anything.


No I'm just reflecting on my experiences as of late.
Herzog Wolfhammer
Sigma Special Tactics Group
#85 - 2012-11-30 01:44:58 UTC
Why worry about what people do and why?

BTW I see this "you are this and therefore you only do/don't do that" mentality mainly in the U.S. There's a lot of pigeonholing and gender-policing going on in the world, and the problem is not coming from the gaming industry or even from most gamers though admittedly there are some from the neckbearded persuasion who get a little creepy when a girl is around.

The women don't know what they are missing, but they are told that they are more attractive for having missed it, yet only accomplish the feat of seeming less interesting to guy who they would find more interesting.

And... having just confused myself, I now ride off on a 2-wheeled tricycle.

Bring back DEEEEP Space!

James Amril-Kesh
Viziam
Amarr Empire
#86 - 2012-11-30 01:46:58 UTC
Meryl SinGarda wrote:
No I'm just reflecting on my experiences as of late.

I can't say I blame you. I consider myself a feminist and LGBT ally despite being your generic young privileged white male. The problem with most people in games such as these isn't outright sexism but merely ignorance of their own privilege. If they paid a bit more attention to how players interact with them in a game versus how they interact with known women, racial minorities, non-cisgendered individuals and non-heterosexual individuals, we'd have a lot less problems.

Enjoying the rain today? ;)

Meryl SinGarda
Belligerent Underpaid Tactical Team
#87 - 2012-11-30 01:47:00 UTC
Herzog Wolfhammer wrote:
Why worry about what people do and why?


Because then people wouldn't have something to argue about or kill each other over.
Muestereate
Minions LLC
#88 - 2012-11-30 02:24:41 UTC
Krixtal Icefluxor wrote:
Muestereate wrote:
I'm kinda of the position that men and women tend toward different activities. They are of course able to do both but maybe not as well.


You blew it RIGHT there with that.



Please feel free to expand unless your too close minded to discuss that is.
Katie Frost
Ministry of War
Amarr Empire
#89 - 2012-11-30 02:33:26 UTC
Are you people seriously arguing RL gender equality in an internet game...?

What do you think the problem with this is? There can never be gender equality on the internet or any place that is relatively consequence-free to our RL-selves simply due to the fact that we are all hiding behind a bunch of avatars and aliases.

Of course all the guys would jump on a girl in EvE and ask her all kinds of inappropriate questions, because the said female would have little recourse (ignore perhaps, or if the action is persistent and malicious petition/report to GMs). Why? Because we can be anyone and anything online and this anonymity in itself changes the entire concept of our psychology and how we act towards one another.

You will find that the traditional ID - EGO - SUPEREGO hierarchy becomes irrelevant, that is to say that we tend to revert back to being guided by our more primal drives. Higher order concepts tend to be left behind and I am positive that most of us have done this one time or another and some more so than others: how often did you find yourself blowing someone up in EvE just because you wanted them to die... mercy, consideration for that person's feelings... need not apply. Same is relevant towards the relationship between players of same of different sexes. Scams, theft, trolling - most of these things would never occur to us in RL, yet we engage regularly in such practices in EvE.

Gender equality by same rights IS stuck in 1952; hell, take it back to caveman days if you want. Males will always revert to their baser instincts around female gamers and likewise, women gamers can and regularly do use their sex to obtain favours or gain advantages. Unless we are skyping this game, using RL names and RL consequences are applied to our actions, good luck in trying to affect any type of change in EvE or any online game.

Besides, the OP article deals with some serious RL issues of gender inequality in salaries of female employees in the gaming industry as well as misrepresentation of female gamers. I fail to see the relevance to EvE... did you want the HUD to be customisable to pink or something?

Anywho, threads like this tend to be so completely irrelevant and useless to argue that I am not sure why so many people even try… myself exempted, of course, as I bring wisdom to the masses.
Meryl SinGarda
Belligerent Underpaid Tactical Team
#90 - 2012-11-30 02:35:36 UTC
Katie Frost wrote:
Are you people seriously arguing RL gender equality in an internet game...?


I'm just going to stop you right there. Much to your surprise, I think you'll find that human beings inhabit this dang new-fangled vidyagame community.
Benny Ohu
Royal Amarr Institute
Amarr Empire
#91 - 2012-11-30 02:48:44 UTC
don't interrupt, katie is a fully quallified armchair psychologist
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hell, take it back to caveman days if you want. Males will always revert to their baser instincts around female gamers and likewise, women gamers can and regularly do use their sex to obtain favours or gain advantages

and did you know women like pink because berries IdeaIdeaIdeaStraight
Keen Fallsword
Skyway Patrol
#92 - 2012-11-30 02:50:41 UTC
[quote=Krixtal Icefluxor]Mother Jones as forwarded by Roger Ebert (of all people).

http://www.motherjones.com/mixed-media/2012/11/women-video-game-industry-twitter-1reasonwhy


Yep women need attention that much ... pfffffffff
Jake Warbird
Republic Military School
Minmatar Republic
#93 - 2012-11-30 02:51:30 UTC
I for one welcome our fairer sex overlords.
Remiel Pollard
Aliastra
Gallente Federation
#94 - 2012-11-30 02:52:27 UTC  |  Edited by: Remiel Pollard
When discrimination, be it "positive" or "negative" (like such a distinction can be made while keeping a straight face), creates social exclusivity, then it is a problem. Women shouldn't need their own channel, for example, because they should be welcome in the ones already available. However, the gender-centric heckling in the ones available forces them to create a new channel where they don't have to put up with the heckling - this simply shouldn't be necessary, and be forcing women into their own channel, even if it's one they've made themselves, it is made for the express purpose of excluding themselves from the general population of prepubescent boys that don't seem to possess the ability to realise that behind the avatar and the gaming handle, there is a real person who deserves as much respect as they do.

I don't see men and women on games. I see other players, and that's it. You won't get any special advantage from me because you're a woman (for one thing, I'm not attracted to women, or men for that matter - I think it's because of my autism but I'm not even all that interested in "that stuff").

After reviewing some of the opinions expressed in here though, I'm quite disappointed in the state of a humanity that think female gamers should have a "special place" in gaming, be that as the object of sexual derision or sexual favouritism. Either way, discrimination is discrimination, and there is no such thing as "positive" discrimination, because like I said, as soon as it produces environments of exclusivity, then it becomes a problem.

“Some capsuleers claim that ECM is 'dishonorable' and 'unfair'. Jam those ones first, and kill them last.” - Jirai 'Fatal' Laitanen, Pithum Nullifier Training Manual c. YC104

Krixtal Icefluxor
INLAND EMPIRE Galactic
#95 - 2012-11-30 03:17:53 UTC
Seven Noctis wrote:
Krixtal Icefluxor wrote:
Muestereate wrote:
I'm kinda of the position that men and women tend toward different activities. They are of course able to do both but maybe not as well.


You blew it RIGHT there with that.


Quote:
So you still think that women can't do some things as well as a guy. The only thing I can think of is women (most) are not built for PowerLifting, but that's about it. And that is not necessary for survivial in society anyway.


Surely you agree that, in general, men and women are inclined toward different things. Sure, there will be some overlaps, but still quite a few differences. And I don't suppose you'll be surprised when I say that people tend to be better at things they are more inclined to do; because they will be more motivated to do them, possibly have more experience with them, etc.

I have reread the original quote a couple of times and that is all I get from it. I see no bias in the statements, nor do I see either men or women being singled out in any way.

Perhaps, as someone who seeks more understanding from others, you should try to offer more of the same in return. Instead, you seem to attempt to mock or ridicule any position you do not immediately agree with, without even reflecting on what was actually said. You'll get no sympathy for that. And it will definitely not help your cause.



I stand by what I said. His "maybe not as well" statement is definitely not thinking.

"He has mounted his hind-legs, and blown crass vapidities through the bowel of his neck."  - Ambrose Bierce on Oscar Wilde's Lecture in San Francisco 1882

Krixtal Icefluxor
INLAND EMPIRE Galactic
#96 - 2012-11-30 03:20:21 UTC
James Amril-Kesh wrote:
Not denying that such a thing could have happened, I wouldn't be surprised, but my point is it's not as much of the norm as you might thing.



Whether or not is is the norm, the fact that it even happens once is appaling.

"He has mounted his hind-legs, and blown crass vapidities through the bowel of his neck."  - Ambrose Bierce on Oscar Wilde's Lecture in San Francisco 1882

Jayson Kassis
Carbon Industries
#97 - 2012-11-30 03:21:29 UTC
Krixtal Icefluxor wrote:
Please, no trolling. This topic is an issue in EVE esp after the article the other day at mittani.com


Was stating that the majority of men are misinformed and telling people to grow up after giving you the answer you needed to hear your idea of keeping this conversation civil?

You clearly see a problem where there doesn't need to be one. You made that clear by completely dismissing the most obvious points that could be made in this thread. On the grand scale, men and women like different things. If we were all the same, we wouldn't reproduce and life would be boring.

Riot Girl wrote:
I've found people tend to pay less attention to gender when you are consistently better at games than they are. If females want to be respected by males in video games, they should learn to become good at video games. I take any game I play very seriously and always strive to be among the best players and to be known for my skill and ability. It works for me.


Regardless of gender, if you want to be respected then learn to play the "game". Heed the above advice.
Krixtal Icefluxor
INLAND EMPIRE Galactic
#98 - 2012-11-30 03:21:54 UTC
Meryl SinGarda wrote:
You know I still think it's crazy that a handful of people meander into a thread, mostly about something they've never experienced, just to share an irrelevant opinion or justify something that a decent human being wouldn't be okay with. Not just this thread, any thread that doesn't agree with the straight white male privilege.

Meaning that everything's mostly okay for you, so you don't feel any empathy for those who have less or aren't as fortunate. And you'll fight tooth and nail to keep things from shifting out of your favor.

Kinda the way the goons abhor mining or bittervets detest most WiS aspects of EVE.


...And the way certain male members of a certain American political party hate women, as we so abhorrently learned this last campaign season.

"He has mounted his hind-legs, and blown crass vapidities through the bowel of his neck."  - Ambrose Bierce on Oscar Wilde's Lecture in San Francisco 1882

Krixtal Icefluxor
INLAND EMPIRE Galactic
#99 - 2012-11-30 03:25:14 UTC
Herzog Wolfhammer wrote:
Why worry about what people do and why?




Because sometimes these situations become dangerous. Guys like me are still murdered to this day just walking down the street even in the Castro in San Fran.

"He has mounted his hind-legs, and blown crass vapidities through the bowel of his neck."  - Ambrose Bierce on Oscar Wilde's Lecture in San Francisco 1882

Krixtal Icefluxor
INLAND EMPIRE Galactic
#100 - 2012-11-30 03:28:02 UTC
Muestereate wrote:
Krixtal Icefluxor wrote:
Muestereate wrote:
I'm kinda of the position that men and women tend toward different activities. They are of course able to do both but maybe not as well.


You blew it RIGHT there with that.



Please feel free to expand unless your too close minded to discuss that is.


Alrighty then. Women actually have to fight and work much harder to do as well in the cooking profession as men, and my friends in gay biker groups were glad when lesbians started joining up because there were finally "People who really know how to fix bikes".

"He has mounted his hind-legs, and blown crass vapidities through the bowel of his neck."  - Ambrose Bierce on Oscar Wilde's Lecture in San Francisco 1882