EVE General Discussion

Get a new Girlfriend. Seriously.

If she can't accept the fact that you'll have differences of interest, and differences of opinion now and again, and doesn't want to give you some time to do your own thing, then she's not worth your time in the first place.

It's pointless trying to get her to play the game if she's not interested in it in the first place, and if she's to the point where she doesn't want you playing if she can't play with you then that's a pretty bad sign.

This is an epic story.


Don't cheat on your GF in space - or alternately - don't introduce your GF to games with female avatars.

This is like a double morality story all wrapped into one.

Wow, quite terrible senjaya. I seen couples and married ones play eve and together very well in my alliance and fro RK days. Strangely almost all of them do industry ones.

Which brings me back on topic.

If you really want your partner to be interested in eve. Do the following:
Get a new GF
Unless you are really commited to this person...
Tell her why exactly you like eve, and why you would like her to play eve. Stuff like sharing interest, do things together on free time, etc. Showing vids and stuff is not a real appropriate way to bring your partner in eve.
Read senjaya' post, dont make those mistakes
Be in a flexible corp. Don't be dual solo in eve.
Decide on a plan on what you can do together, help you and your mate to be richer in eve.
In addition about being rich, make sure its something you and your partner can have FUN, F.U.N. Can't stress this enough.

There are more, but can't think of more atm.

Ok so was I the only person that read thread title as a whine about blobs and gate camps and got a surprise when I read it?

Can't you browse the internet in CQ?

I've only been in mine once, to turn it off......

It's too late for me, I can't get my wife interested in EVE at all. Luckily she hasn't had an issue with my addiction... yet....

So my advice for Gassto is to not force her to play. There are a ton of things to do in EVE and if you let her find them she will enjoy them in her own way. Just remember to help her out with some ISK and hauling shiney things to her. You know, like real life

fixed that for you

In general, to get us rl women into Eve, you have to realize that what attracts us to a game is not the same thing that attracts you men.

In a nutshell: men like to destroy and blow stuff up, women like to nurture and create. For most men it's about gaining power over others, for us women it's about gaining consensus and cooperation between others.

Including myself, my corp has seven women in it (and 53 men). All of us enjoy the industrial and market side of Eve far more than any of the guys - hey, we're women! We love to shop! And we love the idea of a place that is ours, a home we can build, decorate (granted, our decoration is generally limited to how we lay out pos guns), protect and call our own. We also tend to be the ones who plan the various escapades our corp finds ourselves in, who organize operations, handle the announcements, mails, bulletins and other communications, keep the pos's fueled, the corp hangers supplied, and more often than not, recruit and handle the diplomatic stuff - whether it's a feud between ego-bruised members or between us and other corps/alliances.

Don't get me wrong - we women enjoy blowing stuff up too, but mostly, we like having a purpose for blowing stuff up. A grand romantic reason, to be more exact! Going into low or null sec just to find a fight is generally not appealing... hunting down someone who attacked a newbie member, or ganked a vet, or attacked our pos... now THAT we get into. The mother bear in us comes out when we feel one of our own has been unjustly harmed - and we women warriors can be most fierce, indeed, when you **** us off.

What attracted women I know to this game is the grand romance of it all. Space is romantic. The stars, the nebulae, the vastness of it all... fighting to survive in a harsh and cruel universe that really doesn't give a crap about you, doing so side-by-side with your friends and family, against overwhelming odds finding success or eking out survival, but doing it together, because that togetherness is what keeps us in the game.

Want more women in Eve? Emphasis the social - in particular, the cooperative nature of Eve. Let new women players in your corp plan the parties, organize the supplies, recruit, meet-and-greet. Show us the markets and the industrial side, the mining and the exploration - all the best scanners I know are women, we're far more patient

And on the um... perhaps somewhat negative side... show us the underhanded dirty scammy side of Eve. Take advantage of the fact that we can be far more conniving, manipulative, cunning, and downright sneaky than most men - one of the rl women I know in game happens to be one of the best scammers out there, another is one hell of a corporate spy (and thankfully, both are not in my corp!)

But most importantly: Never treat your real-live women corp members as if they are fragile, weak, stupid, ignorant or silly. It'll just **** us off and we'll have to hunt you down and blow you up, repeatedly.

Hmmm was I just imagining things, or did anyone else see them claws pop out?
@~;~~~Senj~~~;~@

It had nothing to do with jealousy. I just did not like having to help him pay his bills while paying the rest of the bills, while he was steady spending, to throw all his time into chasing his fantasies around and I was getting kicked in the face and made his servant girl and all the while never once did I stop him from playing or take anything away from him. I even tried to meet him over half way. You really have no clue Yeah something every good woman should have to go through.

But it's all good, because I found some genuine players that are doing for me, what he should have wanted to do for me. I also get treated with more respect from them. They ask nothing of me in return, but to have fun and not to betray them. Which some ppl have no problem doing. I, on the other hand would never bite the hand that feeds me. In game or R L.