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Why don't more women play Eve Online?

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Celestia Via
Kill'em all. Let Bob sort'em out.
Ushra'Khan
#61 - 2015-02-09 15:29:15 UTC
Leannor wrote:


you've just confirmed why the term carebear arrived. Pissing contest, which it is.

I'd agree with all above, except ... not all men are competative, ... it's like you say, most women are not competitive, equally 'most' men are competitive, and it's the competitive in men which means they can't understand why some can't be, and thus they must be misfits and labelled as such and trashed. Women don't label the competitive (it's usually, also, the men who do that lol).

:-)


well, yeah, i think we agree. dont get me wrong, im not a feminist trying to portray men as lower life forms.
For me its only nature, and even though i acknowledge it, I have no desire to fight it. I myself enjoy good competition like most of my sex.

"We marched for days and nights, under sun, in the rain. Our minds and bodies ached for rest, but in our hearts there was nothing but the fight."

Godfrey Silvarna
Arctic Light Inc.
Arctic Light
#62 - 2015-02-09 15:30:18 UTC  |  Edited by: Godfrey Silvarna
Primary This Rifter wrote:
Remiel Pollard wrote:
Serene Repose wrote:
Maybe guys are better off leaving this one alone. Seriously. All you can do is state your misguided prejudices as gospel truth. How you look when you're done? Really. You don't want that.


Don't you think it's a bit ironic to generalise all men as prejudiced?

This thread is really fun when you play "spot the feminist".

To be honest, the posts by Celestia and Legetus were quite pointless stereotyping and unlikely to reflect any real reasons why women are so underrepresented in EVE. Women do not seem to find EVE attractive even in the cultures were gender roles about violent and competitive masculinity and nurturing femininity are not as strongly taught to children as they are in Anglo-American and Mediterranean cultures, so those are insufficient to explain the lack of female players.

I live in a culture that has very flexible gender roles and A LOT of female gamers and female sci-fi nerds, but very few women play EVE even in here.
Primary This Rifter
Mutual Fund of the Something
#63 - 2015-02-09 15:35:29 UTC  |  Edited by: Primary This Rifter
Godfrey Silvarna wrote:
Primary This Rifter wrote:
Remiel Pollard wrote:
Serene Repose wrote:
Maybe guys are better off leaving this one alone. Seriously. All you can do is state your misguided prejudices as gospel truth. How you look when you're done? Really. You don't want that.


Don't you think it's a bit ironic to generalise all men as prejudiced?

This thread is really fun when you play "spot the feminist".

To be honest, the posts by Celestia and Legetus were quite pointless stereotyping and unlikely to reflect any real reasons why women are so underrepresented in EVE. Women do not seem to find EVE attractive even in the cultures were gender roles about violent and competitive masculinity and nurturing femininity are not as strongly taught to children as they are in Anglo-American and Mediterranean cultures, so those are insufficient to explain the lack of female players.

Because competitive masculinity and nurturing femininity are the result of human sexual dimorphism. Gender did not come from society. Society came from gender.

I'm not saying that a given woman has to be nurturing and feminine and a given man has to be competitive and masculine. I'm saying that these things are true in aggregate, statistically speaking, because of our biology.

Also holy ****, the word "feminist" comes up 14 times when I search under my old name, oftentimes because I was self identifying as such. I'm shaking my head reading some of the stuff that I wrote...
Ria Nieyli
Nieyli Enterprises
SL33PERS
#64 - 2015-02-09 15:36:59 UTC
Primary This Rifter wrote:
Godfrey Silvarna wrote:
Primary This Rifter wrote:
Remiel Pollard wrote:
Serene Repose wrote:
Maybe guys are better off leaving this one alone. Seriously. All you can do is state your misguided prejudices as gospel truth. How you look when you're done? Really. You don't want that.


Don't you think it's a bit ironic to generalise all men as prejudiced?

This thread is really fun when you play "spot the feminist".

To be honest, the posts by Celestia and Legetus were quite pointless stereotyping and unlikely to reflect any real reasons why women are so underrepresented in EVE. Women do not seem to find EVE attractive even in the cultures were gender roles about violent and competitive masculinity and nurturing femininity are not as strongly taught to children as they are in Anglo-American and Mediterranean cultures, so those are insufficient to explain the lack of female players.

Because competitive masculinity and nurturing femininity are the result of human sexual dimorphism. Gender did not come from society. Society came from gender.

I'm not saying that a given woman has to be nurturing and feminine and a given man has to be competitive and masculine. I'm saying that these things are true in aggregate, statistically speaking, because of our biology.


Being masculine does not preclude you from being nurturing or vice versa.
Primary This Rifter
Mutual Fund of the Something
#65 - 2015-02-09 15:40:14 UTC  |  Edited by: Primary This Rifter
I'm not at all denying that there are some people in EVE that can be somewhat hostile towards female gamers, but I don't think that it's able to explain why there aren't that many women playing it. For one, they face the same kind of **** in other games where they're much more represented (e.g. WoW, LoL, even CoD probably has more female gamers). And, for another, this community is generally a lot better about such things than the communities surrounding those other games.

Ria Nieyli wrote:
Being masculine does not preclude you from being nurturing or vice versa.

I'm not saying that it does.
Celestia Via
Kill'em all. Let Bob sort'em out.
Ushra'Khan
#66 - 2015-02-09 15:43:37 UTC  |  Edited by: Celestia Via
Godfrey Silvarna wrote:

To be honest, the posts by Celestia and Legetus were quite pointless stereotyping and unlikely to reflect any real reasons why women are so underrepresented in EVE. Women do not seem to find EVE attractive even in the cultures were gender roles about violent and competitive masculinity and nurturing femininity are not as strongly taught to children as they are in Anglo-American and Mediterranean cultures, so those are insufficient to explain the lack of female players.

I live in a culture that has very flexible gender roles and A LOT of female gamers and female sci-fi nerds, but very few women play EVE even in here.


allright, challenge accepted!

noone but you said anything about cultures. After all, i challenge you to name two cultures where war for example was a female domain.
(real ones please, not Amazons and such)

Its not a cultural thing, its a biology thing, brain chemistry and such.

And even so, we are at least pitching. You cant just rain on our parade with an irrelevant culture reference and no counterproposals.
What do you think the reasons are for EVE being overrun with males?

"We marched for days and nights, under sun, in the rain. Our minds and bodies ached for rest, but in our hearts there was nothing but the fight."

Jenn aSide
Soul Machines
The Initiative.
#67 - 2015-02-09 15:45:45 UTC
Lupe Meza wrote:
CCP does its part to kill that stuff when it can in game, but since so much of EVE requires you to use out of game resources the landscape is like a minefield full of n-bombs, sammich jokes and interaction with socially maladjusted dudes who learned all they needed to know about women from pornhub.


I know a guy (like me, he was black) who quit playing because of the casual use of the a fore mentioned "n-bomb" on commms. I think he was being silly. The truth is that he didn't have to mentality to be in this kind of internet based community. His reaction to that happening was to rant on comms, play the victim, "educate people" about the hurtfulness of that word and finally quit. My reaction is to give as good as i get to the...Saltine-Americans on comms, tell them to kiss the black off my largest body part (which i leave to their imagination) and let that be that.

EVE Online (like the internet in general, especially on 3rd party comms) is a biker bar/men's locker room (with a spaceship shaped backdrop, in EVE's case lol). Understanding that going in ,and asking one's self "am i cut out for this", is crucial to enjoying and enduring it.

And yes, this is why I harp on being the right kind of person for EVE and why I resist the notion that "EVE should be for everyone". EVE is for the tough minded who give zero #$%^s about your feelings.

Godfrey Silvarna
Arctic Light Inc.
Arctic Light
#68 - 2015-02-09 15:46:40 UTC  |  Edited by: Godfrey Silvarna
Primary This Rifter wrote:
I'm not saying that a given woman has to be nurturing and feminine and a given man has to be competitive and masculine. I'm saying that these things are true in aggregate, statistically speaking, because of our biology.

I am unaware of any relevant scientific evidence that points towards these particular traits being significant parts of our sexual dimorphism.

Some bias might be found, sure, since excessive amounts of testosterone really does lead to aggressive and violent behiaviour for example, but any genetic effect is definitely so small it vanishes under the MASSIVE impact culture has on our behiaviour. The way men and women behave is quite different in between Italy and Scandinavia for example with italy having a very classic Macho culture and Scandinavia being traditionally more egalitarian. There is definitely not enough genetic difference between northern and southern europe to explain the difference, but plenty of cultural differences.
Godfrey Silvarna
Arctic Light Inc.
Arctic Light
#69 - 2015-02-09 15:49:54 UTC
Celestia Via wrote:
What do you think the reasons are for EVE being overrun with males?

EVE's ships and visuals are basically just huge phallic symbols. I like collecting big dongs. They make me feel like I have a big dong too.

I suspect women don't get that appeal.
Remiel Pollard
Aliastra
Gallente Federation
#70 - 2015-02-09 15:52:34 UTC
Celestia Via wrote:
Godfrey Silvarna wrote:

To be honest, the posts by Celestia and Legetus were quite pointless stereotyping and unlikely to reflect any real reasons why women are so underrepresented in EVE. Women do not seem to find EVE attractive even in the cultures were gender roles about violent and competitive masculinity and nurturing femininity are not as strongly taught to children as they are in Anglo-American and Mediterranean cultures, so those are insufficient to explain the lack of female players.

I live in a culture that has very flexible gender roles and A LOT of female gamers and female sci-fi nerds, but very few women play EVE even in here.


allright, challenge accepted!

noone but you said anything about cultures. After all, i challenge you to name two cultures where war for example was a female domain.
(real ones please, not Amazons and such)

Its not a cultural thing, its a biology thing, brain chemistry and such.

And even so, we are at least pitching. You cant just rain on our parade with an irrelevant culture reference and no counterproposals.
What do you think the reasons are for EVE being overrun with males?


The Dahomey Amazons. I assure you, they were very real, and only named so for resembling the semi-mythological Amazons.

“Some capsuleers claim that ECM is 'dishonorable' and 'unfair'. Jam those ones first, and kill them last.” - Jirai 'Fatal' Laitanen, Pithum Nullifier Training Manual c. YC104

Celestia Via
Kill'em all. Let Bob sort'em out.
Ushra'Khan
#71 - 2015-02-09 15:56:05 UTC
Godfrey Silvarna wrote:
Celestia Via wrote:
What do you think the reasons are for EVE being overrun with males?

EVE's ships and visuals are basically just huge phallic symbols. I like collecting big dongs. They make me feel like I have a big dong too.

I suspect women don't get that appeal.


I am sorry, but I completely disagree.

I believe CCP artists have taken great pain in achieving the opposite, or at least to not draw "dong-ships"

Now I understand that to some feminist - driven minds, anything with a longer x than y axis, or even (by your own words) anything big appears as a phallic symbol that men crave and women are indifferent to.

I find such logic sexist and irrational, and if you are of such a mind we have nothing further to discuss.

"We marched for days and nights, under sun, in the rain. Our minds and bodies ached for rest, but in our hearts there was nothing but the fight."

Celestia Via
Kill'em all. Let Bob sort'em out.
Ushra'Khan
#72 - 2015-02-09 16:00:22 UTC
Remiel Pollard wrote:

The Dahomey Amazons. I assure you, they were very real, and only named so for resembling the semi-mythological Amazons.


i will take your word for it. still, the challenge was naming two, since one is just an exception and therefore proves nothing in itself.
Halfway there! Big smile

"We marched for days and nights, under sun, in the rain. Our minds and bodies ached for rest, but in our hearts there was nothing but the fight."

Godfrey Silvarna
Arctic Light Inc.
Arctic Light
#73 - 2015-02-09 16:01:53 UTC
Celestia Via wrote:
I believe CCP artists have taken great pain in achieving the opposite

This is the part where I disagree. EVE is a very visually bland game, especially in the core game play of purple boxes, red boxes and red crosses that we spend most of our time interacting with. Walking in stations and modernized ship designs might help some, maybe.
Primary This Rifter
Mutual Fund of the Something
#74 - 2015-02-09 16:03:44 UTC
Godfrey Silvarna wrote:
Celestia Via wrote:
I believe CCP artists have taken great pain in achieving the opposite

This is the part where I disagree. EVE is a very visually bland game, especially in the core game play of purple boxes, red boxes and red crosses that we spend most of our time interacting with. Walking in stations and modernized ship designs might help some, maybe.

So would zooming in.
Remiel Pollard
Aliastra
Gallente Federation
#75 - 2015-02-09 16:04:01 UTC
Godfrey Silvarna wrote:
Celestia Via wrote:
I believe CCP artists have taken great pain in achieving the opposite

This is the part where I disagree. EVE is a very visually bland game, especially in the core game play of purple boxes, red boxes and red crosses that we spend most of our time interacting with. Walking in stations and modernized ship designs might help some, maybe.


When all you have is subjective opinion on the visuals and gameplay of EVE Online, your agreement, or lack thereof, is irrelevant.

“Some capsuleers claim that ECM is 'dishonorable' and 'unfair'. Jam those ones first, and kill them last.” - Jirai 'Fatal' Laitanen, Pithum Nullifier Training Manual c. YC104

Lupe Meza
Hedion University
Amarr Empire
#76 - 2015-02-09 16:09:47 UTC
Jenn aSide wrote:
Lupe Meza wrote:
CCP does its part to kill that stuff when it can in game, but since so much of EVE requires you to use out of game resources the landscape is like a minefield full of n-bombs, sammich jokes and interaction with socially maladjusted dudes who learned all they needed to know about women from pornhub.


I know a guy (like me, he was black) who quit playing because of the casual use of the a fore mentioned "n-bomb" on commms. I think he was being silly. The truth is that he didn't have to mentality to be in this kind of internet based community. His reaction to that happening was to rant on comms, play the victim, "educate people" about the hurtfulness of that word and finally quit. My reaction is to give as good as i get to the...Saltine-Americans on comms, tell them to kiss the black off my largest body part (which i leave to their imagination) and let that be that.

EVE Online (like the internet in general, especially on 3rd party comms) is a biker bar/men's locker room (with a spaceship shaped backdrop, in EVE's case lol). Understanding that going in ,and asking one's self "am i cut out for this", is crucial to enjoying and enduring it.

And yes, this is why I harp on being the right kind of person for EVE and why I resist the notion that "EVE should be for everyone". EVE is for the tough minded who give zero #$%^s about your feelings.



Well frankly, that is YOUR Eve Online. To state that is what the game should be is reductive and non-constructive.

I was part of a corp for months when some more "rural" contingents let their feelings be known about a certain ethnic group I happened to be a part of, unbeknownst to them because I don't conform to societal stereotypes and it is difficult to pick up on comms with me. I didn't seek to educate anyone, I politely dropped comms and corp and found a corp that I have been in to this day with more like minded people, tolerant, and frankly better people. EVE doesn't have to degenerate into some cesspool unless that is what you personally seek, in which case you gravitate towards those people and enjoy playing in your greasetrap, but that wills till only be one group in a sea of many.

That said, and not trying to be offensive, but maybe a black man who instead of supporting another black man offended by racist speech over comms, instead derides that person claiming he was playing the victim and mocks his attempts to "educate" the offenders should maybe take a long hard look at themselves before postulating anything about being "tough enough" for anything; let alone a videogame.
Gwen Ikiryo
Alexylva Paradox
#77 - 2015-02-09 16:12:51 UTC
Most of the other women I talk to about Eve hate the idea of playing it because there are too many men.
Leannor
State War Academy
Caldari State
#78 - 2015-02-09 16:20:19 UTC
Gwen Ikiryo wrote:
Most of the other women I talk to about Eve hate the idea of playing it because there are too many men.


and therein lies the issue that most people ignore.

GUys like hanging out with guys, and girls with girls. GUys and girls have (or at least believe they have) different standards of language, context, jokes, and humour. Doing it in front of the opposite (the very word itself doesn't assist the issue) sex is exposing a vulnerability, or asking for rdicule. As such men generally hold back and can't be themselves 'or' go even further than they would (especially when 'safe' behind a mnoitor screen). Women ... dunno, maybe they just don't want to get offend, or disgusted by the manly things.

Massive generalisations ... but usually true when you get groups of more than 5. And reputation drives the rest.

Props to the ladies who tolerate, and even surpass, the guys in EVE. Twisted

"Lykouleon wrote:

STOP TOUCHING ICONIC SHIP PARTS"

Jenn aSide
Soul Machines
The Initiative.
#79 - 2015-02-09 16:22:16 UTC
Lupe Meza wrote:
Jenn aSide wrote:
Lupe Meza wrote:
CCP does its part to kill that stuff when it can in game, but since so much of EVE requires you to use out of game resources the landscape is like a minefield full of n-bombs, sammich jokes and interaction with socially maladjusted dudes who learned all they needed to know about women from pornhub.


I know a guy (like me, he was black) who quit playing because of the casual use of the a fore mentioned "n-bomb" on commms. I think he was being silly. The truth is that he didn't have to mentality to be in this kind of internet based community. His reaction to that happening was to rant on comms, play the victim, "educate people" about the hurtfulness of that word and finally quit. My reaction is to give as good as i get to the...Saltine-Americans on comms, tell them to kiss the black off my largest body part (which i leave to their imagination) and let that be that.

EVE Online (like the internet in general, especially on 3rd party comms) is a biker bar/men's locker room (with a spaceship shaped backdrop, in EVE's case lol). Understanding that going in ,and asking one's self "am i cut out for this", is crucial to enjoying and enduring it.

And yes, this is why I harp on being the right kind of person for EVE and why I resist the notion that "EVE should be for everyone". EVE is for the tough minded who give zero #$%^s about your feelings.



Well frankly, that is YOUR Eve Online. To state that is what the game should be is reductive and non-constructive.

I was part of a corp for months when some more "rural" contingents let their feelings be known about a certain ethnic group I happened to be a part of, unbeknownst to them because I don't conform to societal stereotypes and it is difficult to pick up on comms with me. I didn't seek to educate anyone, I politely dropped comms and corp and found a corp that I have been in to this day with more like minded people, tolerant, and frankly better people. EVE doesn't have to degenerate into some cesspool unless that is what you personally seek, in which case you gravitate towards those people and enjoy playing in your greasetrap, but that wills till only be one group in a sea of many.


Good for you, still, running away from people isn't what I do. Not everyone has to be the same, but if you find people speaking their mind (ignorant though it may be) hard to take, the problem isn't them, it's you.

Quote:

That said, and not trying to be offensive, but maybe a black man who instead of supporting another black man offended by racist speech over comms, instead derides that person claiming he was playing the victim and mocks his attempts to "educate" the offenders should maybe take a long hard look at themselves before postulating anything about being "tough enough" for anything; let alone a videogame.


This is an example of what I can't stand in real life. Him and i belonging to the same ethnic group means squat, he doesn't deserve my "support" because of his ethnicity. People who deserve support are people who EARN support through their efforts and actions.

The simple fact was that he wasn't mentally suited to be a part of the group we were part of, and rather than look at himself and say "I made a mistake coming here even though I'd heard about it" (and he had, he told me he'd heard about how that group was on comms before joining), he went on a 'social justice' crusade in an attempt to change the hearts and minds of inconsequential internet nerds who like to drunkenly talk bull crap on teamspeak. TBH I disliked him way more than I dislike those drunk redneck internet nerds.


Jenshae Chiroptera
#80 - 2015-02-09 16:31:58 UTC
Story time:

I know of an almost completely female alliance and a few separate female corps. They generally, quietly do not invite randoms and keep men closed out. I came across them through Second Life.

I have a friend from years ago that I met in EVE. Completely forgot she is a woman and convinced her to join our alliance. I did a bit of a double take when I heard her on comms. Offered to get her into the above mentioned female only alliance. She declined and is doing fine because she works in a male dominated industry.

So, you want to know why there are so few women that you come across?

... because of you. Well most of you.

Arrow All the combat gets your testosterone levels up, so you all argue, swear and joust with your e-peens and they have no interest in that.

(I even know a few women that use voice synthesisers to sound like men and avoid the "ti.ts or gtfo" type of behaviour.)

CCP - Building ant hills and magnifying glasses for fat kids

Not even once

EVE is becoming shallow and puerile; it will satisfy neither the veteran nor the "WoW" type crowd in the transition.