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LUMINOUS SPIRIT
Caldari Provisions
Caldari State
#1 - 2014-07-02 14:59:10 UTC
Who do some people have the need to to post the most private details of their personal life on public forums?

I notice this a lot especially in north American culture - every little detail, first thing a lot of people do is post on all the forums about it. Never mind that a lot of people dont care, or dont want to know, or it might bring up unwanted memories.

What happened to notions of privacy and friends? If you got married, sick, cured, divorced, whatever, tell your friends about it by all means - but why tell strangers? And why do it on a computer game forum of all places?

I mean there are mailing lists, tools to manage friends, corp, alliance mails, regular emails, facebook - use those, its not that hard.

For example - the post here about someone having cancer surgery. Thats great, best of luck to that guy, but do I want to know about it? My grandma has cancer, my friend has cancer, and my best friends mom had breast cancer surgery recently - I do NOT want to be reminded about 3 people I know that might still die. And I do not go asking for support of random people on a computer game forum either - its my details, I do not go burdening others with them.

This is a forum for a computer game, not a board for cancer support. This is best done on facebook or some such.

It may sound harsh, but public means respecting other's right NOT to be informed of personal details of certain nature. Im not being hateful or anything, I just dont want to know about certain things. And there is a reason why certain topics are off limits in the EULA.

Please keep topics here in general direction of EVE.
Gallowmere Rorschach
The Scope
Gallente Federation
#2 - 2014-07-02 15:05:33 UTC
/shrug

I support anyone's right to say anything they damn well please...including the various assortments of shitposters. I may, or may not be at least partially insane.
Schmata Bastanold
In Boobiez We Trust
#3 - 2014-07-02 15:05:42 UTC
Chill out and be happy that he didn't create another "PLEX iz expensiv, plis fix" instead :)

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Mythrandier
Solace Corp
#4 - 2014-07-02 15:05:47 UTC
So, because you dont want to be reminded of unhappy thoughts, people who are going through a life threatening illness cannot seek the support of this fine community we have built?

**** off.

"In the beginning the Universe was created. This has made a lot of people very angry and been widely regarded as a bad move." -  D. Adams.
Jenn aSide
Worthless Carebears
The Initiative.
#5 - 2014-07-02 15:07:33 UTC
Mythrandier wrote:
So, because you dont want to be reminded of unhappy thoughts, people who are going through a life threatening illness cannot seek the support of this fine community we have built?

**** off.


This is the truth but it wasn't loud enough, so I fixed.

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Rumple Tugly
Republic Military School
Minmatar Republic
#6 - 2014-07-02 15:07:39 UTC
Don't read it if it bothers you?
Ralph King-Griffin
New Eden Tech Support
#7 - 2014-07-02 15:09:27 UTC
Mythrandier wrote:
So, because you dont want to be reminded of unhappy thoughts, people who are going through a life threatening illness cannot seek the support of this fine community we have built?

**** off.

Nothing more needs saying after this.

Murderers of Negotiable Motivations

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LUMINOUS SPIRIT
Caldari Provisions
Caldari State
#8 - 2014-07-02 15:09:28 UTC
Rumple Tugly wrote:
Don't read it if it bothers you?


the title was misleading - i thought it was related to some close call with a super or a titan or some such..
Jenn aSide
Worthless Carebears
The Initiative.
#9 - 2014-07-02 15:10:23 UTC  |  Edited by: Jenn aSide
LUMINOUS SPIRIT wrote:
Who do some people have the need to to post the most private details of their personal life on public forums?

I notice this a lot especially in north American culture - every little detail, first thing a lot of people do is post on all the forums about it. Never mind that a lot of people dont care, or dont want to know, or it might bring up unwanted memories.

What happened to notions of privacy and friends? If you got married, sick, cured, divorced, whatever, tell your friends about it by all means - but why tell strangers? And why do it on a computer game forum of all places?

I mean there are mailing lists, tools to manage friends, corp, alliance mails, regular emails, facebook - use those, its not that hard.

For example - the post here about someone having cancer surgery. Thats great, best of luck to that guy, but do I want to know about it? My grandma has cancer, my friend has cancer, and my best friends mom had breast cancer surgery recently - I do NOT want to be reminded about 3 people I know that might still die. And I do not go asking for support of random people on a computer game forum either - its my details, I do not go burdening others with them.

This is a forum for a computer game, not a board for cancer support. This is best done on facebook or some such.

It may sound harsh, but public means respecting other's right NOT to be informed of personal details of certain nature. Im not being hateful or anything, I just dont want to know about certain things. And there is a reason why certain topics are off limits in the EULA.

Please keep topics here in general direction of EVE.


So this morning I was taking this MASSIVE bowel movement (Pad Thai is delicious, but boy do you pay for it). Now I know what you are thinking, what does this have to do with EVE?

Well, when I finished, I got up, turned a round and realized that the thing i just dropped looked just like this.
LUMINOUS SPIRIT
Caldari Provisions
Caldari State
#10 - 2014-07-02 15:12:54 UTC
Mythrandier wrote:
So, because you dont want to be reminded of unhappy thoughts, people who are going through a life threatening illness cannot seek the support of this fine community we have built?



But why do it in general discussion? There are out-of-pod forums for real life things, for example. Keep it to appropriate channels so that others who wish NOT to be informed, can avoid reading unnecessary posts. To do it in General Discussions is... not right.
Gallowmere Rorschach
The Scope
Gallente Federation
#11 - 2014-07-02 15:16:38 UTC
LUMINOUS SPIRIT wrote:


But why do it in general discussion? There are out-of-pod forums for real life things, for example. Keep it to appropriate channels so that others who wish NOT to be informed, can avoid reading unnecessary posts. To do it in General Discussions is... not right.

You must have missed his edit. If so, you should probably go read it first, and then **** off.
Krixtal Icefluxor
INLAND EMPIRE Galactic
#12 - 2014-07-02 15:17:04 UTC
I don't feel either way about postings about players having "medical issues".

The problem, especially when they are asking for monetary support, is whether the posting story is legitimate. I don't believe the half of them.

"He has mounted his hind-legs, and blown crass vapidities through the bowel of his neck."  - Ambrose Bierce on Oscar Wilde's Lecture in San Francisco 1882
De'Veldrin
Republic University
Minmatar Republic
#13 - 2014-07-02 15:18:05 UTC
LUMINOUS SPIRIT wrote:
Mythrandier wrote:
So, because you dont want to be reminded of unhappy thoughts, people who are going through a life threatening illness cannot seek the support of this fine community we have built?



But why do it in general discussion? There are out-of-pod forums for real life things, for example. Keep it to appropriate channels so that others who wish NOT to be informed, can avoid reading unnecessary posts. To do it in General Discussions is... not right.

Then report it and let the mods handle it instead of shitting up the forums with yet another useless thread.

De'Veldrin's Corollary (to Malcanis' Law): Any idea that seeks to limit the ability of a large nullsec bloc to do something in the name of allowing more small groups into sov null will inevitably make it that much harder for small groups to enter sov null.
Jonah Gravenstein
Machiavellian Space Bastards
#14 - 2014-07-02 15:19:39 UTC
LUMINOUS SPIRIT wrote:
some things are better left private
like your thoughts....

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LUMINOUS SPIRIT
Caldari Provisions
Caldari State
#15 - 2014-07-02 15:20:19 UTC
De'Veldrin wrote:
LUMINOUS SPIRIT wrote:
Mythrandier wrote:
So, because you dont want to be reminded of unhappy thoughts, people who are going through a life threatening illness cannot seek the support of this fine community we have built?



But why do it in general discussion? There are out-of-pod forums for real life things, for example. Keep it to appropriate channels so that others who wish NOT to be informed, can avoid reading unnecessary posts. To do it in General Discussions is... not right.

Then report it and let the mods handle it instead of shitting up the forums with yet another useless thread.


fair enough.
Marsha Mallow
#16 - 2014-07-02 15:30:23 UTC
The OP did remark in the thread you're referring to that it'll probably get moved to OOPE. People tend to post here first just because it's quiet in there knowing it'll get moved.

I can see where you're coming from, although attacking the person in question is a bit inappropriate. I wouldn't start threads in GD discussing personal issues either, tbh I wouldn't even do it on corp or alliance forums, but I've seen other people do so.

Everyone handles stuff like this in different ways and if they need a bit of support people are usually willing to give it. If you're unwilling to because you have issues of your own, that's understandable, but there's no point being so intolerant about it. Some of these posts actually help other people in similar situations if they are struggling dealing with it and don't have that many people to talk to. It doesn't do any harm to remind folk that there are real people behind the players from time-to-time.

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Sweets > U can dd my face any day
Graabeerd Khagah
MoonFyre BattleGroup Holdings
#17 - 2014-07-02 15:32:16 UTC
Mythrandier wrote:
So, because you dont want to be reminded of unhappy thoughts, people who are going through a life threatening illness cannot seek the support of this fine community we have built?

**** off.


I agree with you sir, when I wrote about my victory over cancer last year, did I whine, did I cry omigawd I'm gonna die, did I beg for money for fully paid services I recieved?? The answer is a BIG RESOUNDING NO!! Did I make new friends and gained support while I was dealing with the situation at hand?? A BIG YES!!

@LS, OP I think you need to sit back and realize and see that even if we are cold hearted in space on the outside, it's in the heart and soul of all of us that REALLY TRULY CARES!!
DaReaper
Net 7
Cannon.Fodder
#18 - 2014-07-02 15:39:23 UTC
Because for some, eve is there outlet.

You make friends, weather in your corp, or through your various associations, that sometimes a forum post gets the word around faster, or can reach long term friends.

Some people just want the support of others, lots of people go through things irl while playing eve, if you have cancer, go though a divorce, you sometimes want support and help to get through it, if eve is your facebook and all your friends are here, then you would post hoping maybe someone who went throught the thing you are can reach out and give you some type of support.

Humans need other humans, everyone does, its the nature of how we work. When humans bond, be it via a game or at work, they want the support, assistance, and friendship of the community they love and are apart of. Be it a video game forum, somthingaweful, yahoo games, facebook, whatever. Some things don't need to be aired, like dirty laundry cause no one needs to see that.

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Victor Andall
#19 - 2014-07-02 15:39:40 UTC
This thread infringes on my rights to not be reminded of how terrible and overpowered AFK Cloaking is.

I just undocked for the first time and someone challenged me to a duel. Wat do?

19.08.2014 - Dinsdale gets slammed by CCP Falcon. Never forget.
Christina Project
Screaming Head in a Box.
#20 - 2014-07-02 15:39:50 UTC
Graabeerd Khagah wrote:
Mythrandier wrote:
So, because you dont want to be reminded of unhappy thoughts, people who are going through a life threatening illness cannot seek the support of this fine community we have built?

**** off.


I agree with you sir, when I wrote about my victory over cancer last year, did I whine, did I cry omigawd I'm gonna die, did I beg for money for fully paid services I recieved?? The answer is a BIG RESOUNDING NO!! Did I make new friends and gained support while I was dealing with the situation at hand?? A BIG YES!!

@LS, OP I think you need to sit back and realize and see that even if we are cold hearted in space on the outside, it's in the heart and soul of all of us that REALLY TRULY CARES!!

Except that this pile of **** doesn't care about anything than itself.

[i]"Don't look into another human's bowl to see how much he has ... ... look into his bowl to see if he has enough !" - Sol[/i]
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