Out of Pod Experience

lol this was so awkward and hilarious

or, KI, stick to ones who are younger

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kLmFlMstjHA

point of the girl picking up girls video being, she was still 40-50% successful. the "why the **** not" reaction is just... ultimate

The younger padewans always just lead to trouble.

Yeah......my more bitter side definitely came out then.

And here in Florida......oh lord. I have not even bothered to check out the gay bars at all, as I'm probably moving anyway within the next 6 months. There have so far been 2 attempts to pick me up at the grocery store though. Cruising while shopping is a thing. BUT.....there is a way of doing it, and a way of not doing it. And both of these two attempts to "garner my interest" turned into near stalking instead. I mean, yes dude, I'm aware of you and your interest, but not taking your eyes off me for 10 solid minutes while I'm wheeling abuggy around, and then blocking me with yours by darting out suddenly at the end of the aisle......

I know they are rather desperate here in the Florida wasteland, but the behaviour while "cruising" has just been super-creepy. When it becomes overly obvious even to other people in the store, that is not a good thing, and points to some deep seated issues. Good luck to whomever they do eventually find.

I've come to believe that people should experience each other for 5 years before settling into a marriage. Really, I've had complete surprises reveal themselves after 3 years with someone.

If I really think about it, beyond raising up a child or two, there really is not any evolutionary advantage to pairing off with someone "forever".

For me, the Wedding Industry (and the Bridezillas it has begotten) is just a manufactured way of perpetuating this "institution", like how the candy industries keep perpetuating Easter (with a perverse bent focused on rabbits......perpetually horny and definitely not monogamous....what an un-Christian animal ) and Valentine's Day. The only way I know those days are approaching is when I walk into K-Mart and everything has converted to pastels.

And this is why I like to do my grocery shopping at 3am.

That's true. It gets harder to find a good match as you get older, because you're both more set in your ways. Here's how Milan Kundera said it in The Unbearable Lightness of Being:

“While people are fairly young and the musical composition of their lives is still in its opening bars, they can go about writing it together and sharing motifs (the way Tomas and Sabina exchanged the motif of the bowler hat), but if they meet when they are older, like Franz and Sabina, their musical compositions are more or less complete, and every motif, every object, every word means something different to each of them.”

Then again, my brother who's 63 years old and actively dating all over the U.S. says it gets easier after age 50. Everybody is more experienced, and they have more easy-going expectations about the whole thing. The life-long commitment and/or making babies thing is out of the picture. The dramatic emotional highs aren't as intense, of course, but in his opinion it's more enjoyable overall.

I live in Thunder Bay, Ontario

Anyway, I've read through pretty much this whole thread since I am a noob at love and trying to learn myself on how to find love.

I've decided that love is what I am looking for after getting my heart broken recently by a girl who honestly isn't even really that good looking or anything but I managed to get attached to her somehow even though we rarely saw eachother.

I really ****** up with that relationship. I Misunderstood her actions and I waited too long and she's moved back to her reserve now and blocked me on Facebook for what she considers "harassment". Well maybe I shouldn't have done the things I did but my mind was clouded by what I can only assume is love, or perhaps "puppy love" since she was my first "serious" relationship.

Either way here are the mistakes I made

1. I assumed that since I am much better looking than her that my chances of being tossed aside by her were slim to none. Huge mistake because this girl was actually interested in me for who I am, or so it seems to me. So I played it "cool" and didn't really let out my feelings too much or even really "try" for her.

2. Used Facebook to communicate. This past summer I really started looking for girls, and my step brother has been helping me out with that since he's about 19 and he knows a lot of girls, even high school girls. So I decided to start using Facebook. Either way the type of girl I am looking for honestly isn't the Facebook type. Or at least she wouldn't spend too much time on there if she did have one. Either way the only reason I still have a Facebook account is to communicate with certain friends who live far away now and I don't really have their phone numbers or anything so I'm just hanging onto my FB account in order to communicate with them.

3. I waited too long. We had broken up (I Broke up with her for a stupid reason and I regret it), and after that I didn't want to ask her out again over FB, so I decided I would show up at her house randomly (Like I did for our first real date), but I waited too long to do so. I knocked on her door and her mom answered. Turns out she's gone back to live on her reservation, the dirty little neechie.

Well it's all good now though, but I am pretty lonely the past couple months and trying to find a girl because sadly growing up I had the mindset that I didn't want any sort of normal long term relationship and that I would be fine just casually sexing girls once in a while but today I realize that's not what I want. I want a true love that I can have all to myself forever and forever. But I'm 20 now and there's no real special girl in my life, and there's no girl in my life who I have known for a long time. It kinda sucks.

So yeah here's my list of things to do if you're looking for love:

1. Remember that everyone starts out equal. Give everyone a chance and don't base everything based upon physical looks.
2. Communicated in person as much as possible (**** talking to girls on the internet)
3. Be in the moment and don't make her wait.

Hang in there, Dorian. You are not alone..

<--- Officially ****** and looking ahead toward another ****** weekend