Out of Pod Experience

Boys, before your mass exodus to Latin America, remember to leave the girls all your EVE stuffs.

/蘭

Latin America has High speed internet.... Hmm, I should post photos of my abs, i'm starting to get a 6 pack since I been working out the last 2 months:P

Lol, Brujo Loco, wheres the part where I get Chloroformed and my organs end up on eBay? Most European women I have come across don't act the same as Canadian women you can actually have a conversation with them. a lot of it not even really does not have to do with feminism, its just women copying bad examples off tv and magazines, and a lot of them seem to want that "Victorian\chivalry" idea of a relationship(If you're familiar with the Victorian era, chivalry was just a fiction)

I have played with the idea of going South of the Equator, Brazil or Argentina in particular, i'm more attracted to latin women in general. Only issue I see is I'm Atheist, I have no issues with people being religious, I know many people in Latin America are deeply religious, another issue is, I don't want to get married or really believe in it, having i'm open to having Children and a long term partner, just not the marriage part. I noticed most women my age are looking to get married and start having children(because their friends are doing it)

How much money you have is an interesting thing, if I had millions of dollars, I would not tell the women how much I have for as long as possible. I noticed that a lot of women look for a man who has a high income level(Good paying Blue collar jobs are a nono with them t) or high-income potential, 4 year university degree and must have found him self in Europe(you mite as well hand them a resume), just remember, having a blue collar job, high school education and not being 40,000 dollars in dept from university and traveling to Europe wont cut it. Then I ask my self, Would a relationship with a women like that be Worth it?, Whats she really like on the inside, Is this going to be a very very one sided relationship, instead of a equal balance relationship?

if you're ready to, consider whether it's even worth the effort to date, or be with someone. a lot of people decide to put it off for the sake of their lifestyle. having responded to your questions I want to say that I don't think it's something I need in my life. but I also don't trust people when they're out of my sight, and I only depend on people for things that I can verify. this is very cynical, and it's what I believe: the only person who has your best interest in mind is you.

Erica, 'bad boy' happens when mommy issue archetype and daddy issue archetype find each other. they satisfy each other's needs and it's not one-way like people think. act like a child and you'll find a mommy figure, etc.

This is more or less what I was about to say in reply to OP.

I never understood this media induced picture of religious people being "bible thumping anti everything" crowd.

Down here we are all religious and bible thumpers are very rare.

You can be as atheist as you want down here, just dont be the Science book thumping type, everyone is pretty chill with such issues down here, we have a lot of issues to worry about than worry about that XD

You can find relaxed attitudes regarding marriage down here too, fact is, women living with men under "concubinato" (living together but not married, but legally protected specially when kids are around) is actually pretty common.

Having kids down here is different to other countries, most women have them very very young. So it is a highly probable you will find a partner that has kids already (depending on your age)

Go South Friend!

Dont be afraid of it !

Well if there's one thing that matters, no matter what your opinion, do not allow yourself to be shamed out of having it.

I find this website has lots of stuff I could have written in my 20s

In conclusion, as a fellow Canadian, I will point out how you failed on two levels.

One, dating in Toronto -- what were you thinking ? The vast majority of Torontonians are self-entitled gits, with no real desire to take anyone seriously other than themselves.

Two, see above.

Escape now, while you still can.

I think that thinking of yourself as broken is not a good place to start, if interacting with other people is your goal. I think interaction is like anything else in live (including EVE). You don't learn the really valuable lessons without taking risks, and the more you end up doing it the more you feel confident that you want to do it again.

There is of course a rut you can get stuck in, where the more you do something, the more negative experiences you have.. but very few individuals would really help you out of a negative spiral like that. But what's the alternative? Not try interacting with people at all?

/蘭

Self-awareness FTW! If people look at their own behavior, they can keep developing and evolving. One can make oneself into the person one wants to be. But if you never look at your own behavior, there's no chance of ever developing. (Isn't it amazing how many people seem fall into that category?)

Because it´s a modern mantra to accept yourself as you are and people have to endure it or else, which instead of creating "unique" people just throws a lot of human mass into a common denomination in the lowest end of the spectrum.

I have honestly seen more positive change in people´s attitudes (and my own) by being confronted on the spot and giving time to understand qualities people that care about you see wrong.

Not only is a certain level of external reliance/support needed to improve, it is essential to the growth of mankind.

Modern society instead promotes isolationism and the worst possible form of social bonding, sectarianism

It´s not that we need to create a racial melting pot of cultures to erase prior tribal beliefs, it´s more of a simple need of the world to feel kinship with other fellow men, but every single thing today is geared to divide, promote conflict and alienate yourself.

During my College years I remember delving deeply into the Works of Melvin Seeman and even asking the Professor for copies of his work to be cited in personal projects.

His works are the basis points for understanding the ailments of most modern men in first world countries and by cascade into those of the "third world" that despite having different necessities face some of these.

And why I cite him? for his contributions into the ever engrossing concept of Social Alienation , where many others keep adding to this field of study.

It is my personal belief a basis point for understanding most of modern inadequacies can be found within the Paradigm of the Anomie.

In short, we need other people to keep us grounded, people that can actively help us. Modern society makes this difficult and we need new paradigms to keep us healthy.

Just my personal thoughts and I believe I digressed a bit. But I am tired so I let myself go

In my experience (and trust me you don't want the whole story lest you end up holding a gun in your mouth wishing I would shut up) the thing you have to be most concerned for are the abusers.

Yeah. Abusers.


When we hear that word, the vernacular and context tends to imply "some redneck who gets drunk and beats up the wife". And so, being somewhat conditioned or one-sided, if the situation does not involve a redneck getting routinely drunk and beating up the wife, wearing a sleeveless shirt and all that - we don't "see" the abuse.

But what I have found is that abused women WILL abuse, especially if their dad did the abuse, and if the abuse was towards their mother. I don't care what anybody says, what your parents imprint on you during your formative years is how you are hardwired and if that hardwiring is wrong, then you will spend your entire life having to fight it.

Funny thing is, women don't really end up like their dads in overall habits and interest because of a gender and generational gap, so they can swear up and down that they are not like their fathers.

But they will be, the same "template" will be there.

And this you have to watch out for. I mean, you have to set up a radar system intended to find it. Because this likes to sneak up on the radar, and we live in a society where having breasts automatically means you are faultless in all relationship matters.

So you end up either being abused, and even worse, enabling your own abuse. And the funny part is you may even become resentful without really knowing why, and if you hide from it out of fear of "never getting laid again" or "dying alone" you will reach a day when you are ready to burn the bridge while still on it.

And all that because when a woman spurns men, she's "empowered" or something but if a man prefers a beer over drama, he's a "loser".

So some of you younger ones out there, take it from a scarred old dog. Don't put up with crap. Period. That's why I posted that link - because if I had read stuff like that when I was say 19 or 20, I would have at least had a perspective on things that were not one-sided against my best interests. I had to learn the hard way. It's more than taxing on one's spirit: I have lost and abandoned equipment (read: money) from Germany to Seattle on this trail of "from one ditch-witch to the next".

Tonight I'm making some beer.