Out of Pod Experience

For real. Just how many Stalking Ex-es go around wearing body armor

I'm Canadian actually, and like I said, what are you supposed to do, ask him to wait 5-20 minutes before beating the **** out of you so the police will show up to help, same thing with Indian women arming them selves against rapists.
Things arn't so "Hello Kitty" in real life Bud.

I did not expect a serious response even if he .......all hail the hypno toad

i'm sure the times having one made any significant positive impact on a situation vs. making no impact or even a furthering the negative effect are rather disproportionate in favor of the latter.

but even so. that's only part of the point. the rest of the point being that the proliferation of weapons in the populace scales up the general level of violence in a society. take 19th century America for example. everyone carried weapons. violence was rampant among the criminal element and out of it. whole towns and cities banned them from being carried in public at all. why? because, in my opinion, when the gun is widely available as a "solution" to an issue the general tendency will be to resort to it as the "go to" problem solver instead of other non violent means. of which there are almost always other options that don't require deadly force or threat thereof.

I mean...if every woman carried a gun to dispatch annoying ex-boyfriends with there would probably be a lot of dead ex-boyfriends. i'd have a couple notches on my grip myself.

also, I feel like we are starting to tread dangerously close to a politicized debate and we all know this is not the place for those. wouldn't want to see the thread locked because of a tangent line of discussion that, admittedly, I think is my fault this time.

Hence why my response was so short


Relevant..... this book is not 100% proof and definitely is not the be all end all for the debate of which I chose, at this point in time, to sit on the other side of the discussion. But yes, this is definitely not truly a discussion that needs to be covered in this thread. However, if we are able to keep the discussion civil I see absolutely no reason why this type of discussion can not occur on these forums. Granted there are 'rules', but they have been subverted since.....well; at least since I have been posting on the forums.

Confirming that this book is an awesome read. Actually, everything Pinker writes is pretty damn good.

Though I wish he didn't have to go into such detail about the old timey torture methods. A lot of that stuff was really disturbing!

I more or less didnt want to post as most people would probably look bad upon me if I said this exact same thing.

But me, living in Scam Land in the continent of Scamming, its my opinion you better not only check this first (I dont know if the UK has the same accessibility of personal records like the US, where for about 60$ there are web sites you can find ALL kinds of public police records and court litigation processes in a moment for specific parties.

Down here where I live and in Venezuela, Social Engineering scams are the norm, and Id gladly smile when someone is plain rude opposite to those when out of the blue people are courteous to me.

That´s life, and you have to roll with that, meh, even in Panama is common for people within Jail(they have cellphones and others ammenities even when incarcerated) to call you to your personal cellphone and either threaten you or pretend they are from this or that company.

Not saying this lady is like that, but if you were my son, and you probably are young enough to be, I would tell you to steer away from that bundle of troubles, and if you really want to continue that then clear out their backgrounds first with local police first or hire a PI to do some basic groundwork for you.

Everyone is out there for themselves, keep that in mind all the time.

Hey, guys
I love that this thread is still alive just a quick round up, unfortunately her ex did pay her a visit and didn't end very well at all.
however i knew he was there as she put him on loud speak and heard it all.
so i spent 40 minutes finding her address as i couldn't remember it, and called the police luckily, they got there in time before the real beating started. She got dragged down the stairs and received carpet burns to her face and a bruised chest, sore arm how ever she has now placed a restraining order on this poor excuse of a man.
And nothing been said since, we are going out for the weekend and are going to enjoy ourselves tonight (wink) thanks for all the kind words fly safe love u all.
Benn&Paula

I don't think this is that type of scam.

But what gets me is this is a 26 yo male becoming infatuated with an older lady and no more. He is a victim of his own hormones right now, and nothing more. Why would someone so young find an appeal in someone older who is also just emerging from a horrifying medical condition and treatment. And what the heck was she doing on a dating site, with her life in that kind of condition ? That's what smacks as all wrong to me.

Short of looking at the actual medical records, there is no way to tell if she is truly in remission or not. I'd be looking into that with expediency at this point.

And cancer is never truly over. It may be or may not be, but absolutely no doctor is going to tell you "you are done" with your cancer. It does not work that way.

And if she does relapse, well, here is going to be a young guy whose life and interests are diverted away from any previous goals, possibly for years.

It's foolish to throw away ones life over a recent infatuation with someone who is in "need of help" and support. Where was her support system during the treatments ? Were there any. Never fall for someone who is ultimately just lonely.

I don't understand how this could be a situation that is appealing to such a young man. He ain't thinking.

I've seen this situation over and over again. Both gay and straight relationships. And it's honestly nothing but a formula for eventual disaster. I guarantee it.

And the poor guy refuses to even acknowledge any iota of negativity in this situation. He is blind already from infatuation, and nothing more.

Double post