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De nada.
We only play at trolls in-game. IRL, most of us are actual human beings.



This.^ Most excellent.



Look out for yourself and your own needs - if you're not taking care of that, you can't take care of anything, or anyone, else. As you say, there's no need for drama; leave like a cat - just turn and walk away.

Be Well.

Apologies for the slight necro on this, but I thought it right to let ya'll know what happened. On Thursday, myself, my partner, and close friends returned to my hometown to pay Grandpa his last respects. The VFW was awesome, and actually re-created the grave site, with casket and all (the casket, of course was empty). Grandpa got his three volleys, Taps, and flag honors rendered. Afterwards, there were many rounds in his name at the VFW hall, and war stories shared.

Turns out, my mother didn't request military honors at the "first" funeral, so I'm glad Grandpa got the send-off he deserved. Thanks again for everyone's advice, well-wishes, and condolences.

Wow, great bunch of people whom did that. I am sure your grandfather is smiling at yah. Happy you got some kind of solace and closure..

I feel that you are right for being insulted and angry. What I would do, personally, is I would go to the grave with my significant other (if they wished to accompany me) and I would have my own private mourning...and I would go in full uniform (if I were a vet, which I am not).

Sadly, this kind of thing happens to many people. I'm in an interracial marriage and converted to Buddhism with my wife, and some of my family is uncomfortable with those things; we're not on speaking terms, including my mother, who I used to have such a good relationship with.

I believe, and always have, that the family you choose often means more than the family you're born into.

If you know that your family doesn't like your lifestyle, why would you rub it in their face at a funeral? You would deliberately cause them distress in a time of mourning, whether or not you are consciously aware of this is irrelevant.

You wouldn't show them respect, but you demand it in return?

See the problem?

Where does the OP mention lifestyle? It isn't a lifestyle. That person is who they are. Defending shallow-mindedness, in the way that you do, is frankly depressing.

Wow, that is extremely ****** up.

Sever contact. They obviously have no respect for you as a person because of who you are & you deserve better than that.

I guess I don't realise how 'lucky' I am

My brother is homosexual, it's never been a problem in the only family that matters (me, my wife, my mum and dad), it was never brought up with my in-laws, at the time my brother in law was very anti-homosexual so while we didn't hide it, we didn't bring it up as a topic of conversation.

I've been fortunate (if it can be described as fortunate) to be at the hospital bedside of my mum, and both my parents in law when they passed away. None of them were concious but it still gave a sense of closure as we could say our goodbye's.

I can't imagine the pain of your situation happening to me, and I truly feel for you and your partner, if you can't rely on family in these times when can you?

It's a shame that they can't accept your sexuality and move on.

Personally I would move on, yes you will be angry and rightly so, but it's the kind of anger that will eat at you for years if it you let it. Forgive although 'forget' will probably never happen, accept the fact that they can't accept you, but as long as you've got a loving partner to give you strength then you will be able to get through this.

Be a better person than your family, if they sometime in the future realise what they did, and how it upset you, they may accept you for what you are rather than what they want.

Sorry for your loss, your grief, and your hassles :(