Out of Pod Experience

Can I have your stuff?

Remembering that EVE is primarily a PvP game, and that all PvE takes place in that context, my suggestion to you is that you get right back into whatever it was you were doing: start with a smaller ship, build up your income stream again. Read the Making ISK guide so you don't end up with only 1B ISK of assets after 5 years of playing.

What happened to you is a classic trap for new players: ninja looters will head into your mission, steal your loot, go blinky to you, wait for you to shoot them (which gives them permission to shoot back) then reship into a combat vessel and blow you up. This scenario is almost as old as EVE itself. So now you know about it, you have the information you need to not be caught by this trap again. Remember that next time someone goes blinky to you in a mission space, the right thing to do is dock up and log out.

Losing your favourite mission-running ship can be a huge emotional blow. You really need to get back on that horse and keep riding. Don't let the loss get you down: learn from this experience and move on. If you have a fleet of friends running missions with you, you'll find it's easy to get back into the rhythm.

This is a good thing, I mean it. You are free. 5 years is too long to date a supermodel let alone play the SAME game. He did you a favor, I mean that.

Doesn't matter if your right or wrong. This will be locked and you'll be banned. Join me for a game of GT 5?

FWIW, I once lost a CNR (back when they were CNRs, not RNIs) and went through all of this myself. I lost the ship to a crash-to-desktop after having gained full room aggro. If i hadn't crashed, I'd probably have kept the ship.

I experienced the classic five stages of grieving: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance. I logged out and back in a few times, just in case there was something wrong with the game. I fumed and steamed for a while, blaming my computer, CCP, anything and everything else except myself (even expressing my anger to the point of banging my pots and pans around as I unpacked the dishwasher, a classic temper tantrum). I begged the GMs to reimburse my ship. I went into a black funk for a week, almost in tears when I wanted to log into EVE each night (yes really).

Then I reminded myself that it's just a game, and the game is based on blowing stuff up. My stuff got blown up (and I was sad that it wasn't blown up by a player, 'cos then at least I'd be able to claim PvP experience), and now I had the opportunity to get more stuff: I was in an advantageous position since I had standings with agents, I had good ship piloting skills, and I knew how most of the missions worked. So I bought a Caracal, ran some L3 missions, upgraded to a Drake, got back into L4 missions, and now my missioning fleet consists of Rattlesnake, Dominix, Tengu, Oracle, etc. I have plenty of options and a decent ISK flow because I didn't let the loss of my favourite ship keep me down.

Might I suggest that you start a PvP alt and get into Faction Warfare? The best way to get over the emotional shock of losing ships is (oddly enough) to lose more ships. You'll get to realise that losing ships is part of life. It still stings when it happens, but you know that it happens, you are prepared that it will happen to you, and you enjoy the time that it's not happening to you so much more

Your first ship loss is the hardest to cope with. That it took you 5 years to get to this point just makes this first loss that much more painful, because you've fallen into thinking that you're "safe" when running missions in hisec. You'll get over it, and you'll enjoy the game more for having experienced this. You'll be aware that you're not "safe" in hisec so much as "not being shot at right now" .

Anyhow, that's enough of my babbling for one thread.

EVE would benefit greatly with a lot more of this attitude.

No.

I'm a 'high sec carebear' to a certain degree with 3 years of playing, but this 5 year dude's OP takes the cake, really.

This is EVE-O GD. You appear to be a bit somewhat unclear on the concept.
Hell, even the OP anticipated a thorough smacking around.

O.o

This is a series of the silliest statements I have ever heard.

So even after 5 years you STILL don't understand that you're NEVER save in Eve, even in high sec...just like in real life. And that's what makes EVE great imo. No cushy "oh I'm dead, I have to wait 20sec to respawn" nonsense. The chance of losing everything is a big draw, something that makes Eve special imo.

PS: Getting ganked in high sec isn't a "loophole"...