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Bane Necran
Appono Astos
#61 - 2012-12-18 17:48:11 UTC
Cynthia Gallente wrote:
Today there is a response to the ad

Gladys Johnson - jgladys8@-.com
hi, i got your ad on CL, i would like to know you more if you won't mind...
Pic


Next come the messages about needing money to visit.

"In the void is virtue, and no evil. Wisdom has existence, principle has existence, the Way has existence, spirit is nothingness." ~Miyamoto Musashi
Jago Kain
Viziam
Amarr Empire
#62 - 2012-12-18 17:58:21 UTC
Bane Necran wrote:
Cynthia Gallente wrote:
Today there is a response to the ad

Gladys Johnson - jgladys8@-.com
hi, i got your ad on CL, i would like to know you more if you won't mind...
Pic


Next come the messages about needing money to visit.


Or for an urgently needed strapadichtomy operation perhaps. Or maybe not; you sure that's a girl?

Clearly this is not going to end in tears. Roll

One original thought is worth a thousand mindless quotings - Diogenes.
Elias Greyhand
#63 - 2012-12-18 18:08:42 UTC
Jago Kain wrote:
Clearly this is not going to end in tears. Roll


And the answer is: Words that should be on display at any marriage venue?

"That which is done cannot be undone. But it can be avenged."
Telegram Sam
Sebiestor Tribe
Minmatar Republic
#64 - 2012-12-18 22:08:50 UTC
In America at least, Starbucks. It's the natural habitat of the many American females. Just sit in there half an hour and see how many beauties come in. And as opposed to clubs, the atmosphere and music volume level is such that you could actually have a conversation.
Eurydia Vespasian
Storm Hunters
#65 - 2012-12-18 22:27:54 UTC
Telegram Sam wrote:
In America at least, Starbucks. It's the natural habitat of the many American females. Just sit in there half an hour and see how many beauties come in. And as opposed to clubs, the atmosphere and music volume level is such that you could actually have a conversation.


i prefer carribou coffee myself. better quality, better snacks...it's just better. Blink
Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
#66 - 2012-12-19 08:47:10 UTC
Takezo Wifebeater wrote:
Akita T wrote:
Pick a barely legal one and slowly mentally mold her to your liking ?

Maybe, but we don't all do it Romanian style Cool

No, no, that's filthy rich old guy style, and it's nation-agnostic Twisted

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Le Badass
Republic University
Minmatar Republic
#67 - 2012-12-19 12:07:05 UTC
Telegram Sam wrote:
In America at least, Starbucks. It's the natural habitat of the many American females. Just sit in there half an hour and see how many beauties come in. And as opposed to clubs, the atmosphere and music volume level is such that you could actually have a conversation.



So true!
I was in the states this fall and visited a Starbucks near one of the colleges in Charleston.
Ho-lee-fark is all I have to say.

That being said, here's my advice to the OP:

Stop looking at the women, start looking at yourself. Work on the following:
- The way you carry yourself. Stand straight, chest forward and lift your gaze. Don't look down, don't hang your shoulders.
- Don't avoid eye contact. In fact, challenge yourself to keep eye contact every time you talk to a woman.
- ... And when you do have the conversation, express yourself in absolutes. Whether you're right or wrong in your opinions isn't that important. What's important is that you have opinions which you firmly believe in. It says something about you.

And as others say, get out. You need to interact with women to hook one, and in order to interact, you must frequent places where women of interest can be found.

Initiate contact. They're genetically hardwired to wait for you to do it, and they generally think that men who don't are weak.

Finally, have a good time :)
Khergit Deserters
Crom's Angels
#68 - 2012-12-19 15:16:39 UTC
Le Badass wrote:
Telegram Sam wrote:
In America at least, Starbucks. It's the natural habitat of the many American females. Just sit in there half an hour and see how many beauties come in. And as opposed to clubs, the atmosphere and music volume level is such that you could actually have a conversation.



So true!
I was in the states this fall and visited a Starbucks near one of the colleges in Charleston.
Ho-lee-fark is all I have to say.

That being said, here's my advice to the OP:

Stop looking at the women, start looking at yourself. Work on the following:
- The way you carry yourself. Stand straight, chest forward and lift your gaze. Don't look down, don't hang your shoulders.
- Don't avoid eye contact. In fact, challenge yourself to keep eye contact every time you talk to a woman.
- ... And when you do have the conversation, express yourself in absolutes. Whether you're right or wrong in your opinions isn't that important. What's important is that you have opinions which you firmly believe in. It says something about you.

And as others say, get out. You need to interact with women to hook one, and in order to interact, you must frequent places where women of interest can be found.

Initiate contact. They're genetically hardwired to wait for you to do it, and they generally think that men who don't are weak.

Finally, have a good time :)

Confirming that this is all true. Especially about initiating communication and maintaining eye contact. The message/content of the greeting is in what you communicate with your eye contact. It doesn't matter that much what kind of gibberish your lips are saying, in the beginning at least.
Reiisha
#69 - 2012-12-19 15:32:05 UTC
Baby ChuChu wrote:
My ancestors spoke of this place The Old Ones called "outside." I have yet to look into this legend myself, but the stories I remember hearing from my youth make it sound most intriguing.



Gibbo5771 wrote:
Money, lots of it.

Also helps if you are a douche bag with zero respect for women, stare at various other women while any girl is talking to you, also alcohol.

Wait.....thats how to get laid, ma bahd.



Met my GF on the internets. We got together while both of us were jobless and broke. We're both nerds.

If you do things right, people won't be sure you've done anything at all...
Eurydia Vespasian
Storm Hunters
#70 - 2012-12-19 15:34:44 UTC
Le Badass wrote:
- ... And when you do have the conversation, express yourself in absolutes. Whether you're right or wrong in your opinions isn't that important. What's important is that you have opinions which you firmly believe in. It says something about you.


a word of advice from the feminine side...opinions can be great conversation starters/icebreakers. but don't be too forceful in discussing them. it'll make you come across as an opinionated, "i feel the need to always be right" d-bag.

which is a huge turn off.

don't be that guy.
Miss Piggy
Doomheim
#71 - 2012-12-19 15:59:33 UTC
Surfin's PlunderBunny wrote:
You must also pay attention to the signs, a simple way of telling if a woman likes you is by the positioning of her feet. http://sphotos-a.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash3/559773_237009316429025_881593278_n.jpg


Hand to the groin has worked in the past for me.
Miss Piggy
Doomheim
#72 - 2012-12-19 16:02:35 UTC
Eurydia Vespasian wrote:
Le Badass wrote:
- ... And when you do have the conversation, express yourself in absolutes. Whether you're right or wrong in your opinions isn't that important. What's important is that you have opinions which you firmly believe in. It says something about you.


a word of advice from the feminine side...opinions can be great conversation starters/icebreakers. but don't be too forceful in discussing them. it'll make you come across as an opinionated, "i feel the need to always be right" d-bag.

which is a huge turn off.

don't be that guy.



I liked wimmin better before they burned their bra's 'n' ****.
Miss Piggy
Doomheim
#73 - 2012-12-19 16:12:35 UTC
Khergit Deserters wrote:
Le Badass wrote:
Telegram Sam wrote:
In America at least, Starbucks. It's the natural habitat of the many American females. Just sit in there half an hour and see how many beauties come in. And as opposed to clubs, the atmosphere and music volume level is such that you could actually have a conversation.



So true!
I was in the states this fall and visited a Starbucks near one of the colleges in Charleston.
Ho-lee-fark is all I have to say.

That being said, here's my advice to the OP:

Stop looking at the women, start looking at yourself. Work on the following:
- The way you carry yourself. Stand straight, chest forward and lift your gaze. Don't look down, don't hang your shoulders.
- Don't avoid eye contact. In fact, challenge yourself to keep eye contact every time you talk to a woman.
- ... And when you do have the conversation, express yourself in absolutes. Whether you're right or wrong in your opinions isn't that important. What's important is that you have opinions which you firmly believe in. It says something about you.

And as others say, get out. You need to interact with women to hook one, and in order to interact, you must frequent places where women of interest can be found.

Initiate contact. They're genetically hardwired to wait for you to do it, and they generally think that men who don't are weak.

Finally, have a good time :)

Confirming that this is all true. Especially about initiating communication and maintaining eye contact. The message/content of the greeting is in what you communicate with your eye contact. It doesn't matter that much what kind of gibberish your lips are saying, in the beginning at least.


Would work way better if wimmins eyes were like 1cm above their nipples.
Men are shy they need incentive.
Vrexstus Mercana
Doomheim
#74 - 2012-12-19 16:21:41 UTC
Gallentian Shadow wrote:
I am sure many of us are wondering; how do we attract a stable mate of the opposite gender?

Playing a game with a 97% manly user base sure doesn't work.



If you are asking the question id hate to imagine how your high school life was.

Cmon dude really?

"You Exist because we allow it....And you will die because we demand it.."
Kenneth O'Hara
Sebiestor Tribe
#75 - 2012-12-19 16:30:13 UTC
Eurydia Vespasian wrote:
Le Badass wrote:
- ... And when you do have the conversation, express yourself in absolutes. Whether you're right or wrong in your opinions isn't that important. What's important is that you have opinions which you firmly believe in. It says something about you.


a word of advice from the feminine side...opinions can be great conversation starters/icebreakers. but don't be too forceful in discussing them. it'll make you come across as an opinionated, "i feel the need to always be right" d-bag.

which is a huge turn off.

don't be that guy.

This has been and is still the hardest thing for me to overcome. Being this way was not intentional either. I slowly evolved into being that kind of d-bag. I have a natural thurst for knowledge and I am constantly researching and reading up on everything. When I start talking to someone about a specific topic that I am familiar with, I assume they are familiar with it as well. I talk to them as an equal on the topic. Well, if they are not as familiar on the topic as I think they are, then it's viewed as condescension. If I presume they are not as familiar and I try to explain it "dumbed down" in a simple way for them to understand, then it's viewed as condescension as well. It is really hard to find that middle ground it seems.

My ex was the first and only person to call me out as being condescending. You're probably thinking that's why she is my ex now. Actually, she called me out and I made an honest effort to try and change. But as I tried to change, a few months later she intentional started to treat me as I was stupid and talking down to me even over the simple things. I aksed her if she knew that she was doing it and she flat out told me yes she did and that she had no respect for me. I had everything packed and was out that night. She was crying the whole time, begging for me to stop and stay. She was unemployed and I was the only source of income. I have no idea where she is or what happened to her but leaving was the most liberating thing I had ever done. I was finally able to eat and enjoy myself for the first time in a year.

Looking back in hindsight, I wonder if it was just her that was the problem... just a thought.

Bring Saede Riordan back!! Never Forget! _"__Operation Godzilla Smacks Zeus"  ~__Graygor _
Vrexstus Mercana
Doomheim
#76 - 2012-12-19 16:33:40 UTC
hahaha like the Bas Rutten Parady in GTA IV


"All you gotta do Is Whip it out and say hey! what are we going to do about this!"

"You Exist because we allow it....And you will die because we demand it.."
Telegram Sam
Sebiestor Tribe
Minmatar Republic
#77 - 2012-12-19 17:59:51 UTC  |  Edited by: Telegram Sam
Kenneth O'Hara wrote:
Eurydia Vespasian wrote:
Le Badass wrote:
- ... And when you do have the conversation, express yourself in absolutes. Whether you're right or wrong in your opinions isn't that important. What's important is that you have opinions which you firmly believe in. It says something about you.


a word of advice from the feminine side...opinions can be great conversation starters/icebreakers. but don't be too forceful in discussing them. it'll make you come across as an opinionated, "i feel the need to always be right" d-bag.

which is a huge turn off.

don't be that guy.

This has been and is still the hardest thing for me to overcome. Being this way was not intentional either. I slowly evolved into being that kind of d-bag. I have a natural thurst for knowledge and I am constantly researching and reading up on everything. When I start talking to someone about a specific topic that I am familiar with, I assume they are familiar with it as well. I talk to them as an equal on the topic. Well, if they are not as familiar on the topic as I think they are, then it's viewed as condescension. If I presume they are not as familiar and I try to explain it "dumbed down" in a simple way for them to understand, then it's viewed as condescension as well. It is really hard to find that middle ground it seems.

My ex was the first and only person to call me out as being condescending. You're probably thinking that's why she is my ex now. Actually, she called me out and I made an honest effort to try and change. But as I tried to change, a few months later she intentional started to treat me as I was stupid and talking down to me even over the simple things. I aksed her if she knew that she was doing it and she flat out told me yes she did and that she had no respect for me. I had everything packed and was out that night. She was crying the whole time, begging for me to stop and stay. She was unemployed and I was the only source of income. I have no idea where she is or what happened to her but leaving was the most liberating thing I had ever done. I was finally able to eat and enjoy myself for the first time in a year.

Looking back in hindsight, I wonder if it was just her that was the problem... just a thought.

"Freedom!!!" -The fictional William Wallace in 'Braveheart.'
Good on you for being decisive and making a clean break. Of all bad habits a partner can have, I think being manipulative or playing head games are the worst. Nobody would put up with that if a regular friend was doing it. Why would they want to put up with it from somebody who's supposed to be your best friend? That's a hard concept for a lot of humans to grasp. ''Even though we're intimate, that doesn't mean we have permission to treat each other with no respect."
Khergit Deserters
Crom's Angels
#78 - 2012-12-19 19:17:56 UTC  |  Edited by: Khergit Deserters
Miss Piggy wrote:
Khergit Deserters wrote:
Le Badass wrote:
Telegram Sam wrote:
In America at least, Starbucks. It's the natural habitat of the many American females. Just sit in there half an hour and see how many beauties come in. And as opposed to clubs, the atmosphere and music volume level is such that you could actually have a conversation.
So true! I was in the states this fall and visited a Starbucks near one of the colleges in Charleston. Ho-lee-fark is all I have to say. That being said, here's my advice to the OP: Stop looking at the women, start looking at yourself. Work on the following: - The way you carry yourself. Stand straight, chest forward and lift your gaze. Don't look down, don't hang your shoulders. - Don't avoid eye contact. In fact, challenge yourself to keep eye contact every time you talk to a woman. - ... And when you do have the conversation, express yourself in absolutes. Whether you're right or wrong in your opinions isn't that important. What's important is that you have opinions which you firmly believe in. It says something about you. And as others say, get out. You need to interact with women to hook one, and in order to interact, you must frequent places where women of interest can be found. Initiate contact. They're genetically hardwired to wait for you to do it, and they generally think that men who don't are weak. Finally, have a good time :)
Confirming that this is all true. Especially about initiating communication and maintaining eye contact. The message/content of the greeting is in what you communicate with your eye contact. It doesn't matter that much what kind of gibberish your lips are saying, in the beginning at least.
Would work way better if wimmins eyes were like 1cm above their nipples. Men are shy they need incentive.

Unfortunately, shyness won't get you anywhere. All it will get you is a lot of missed opportunities. Where somebody kind of liked you and actually wanted to meet you, but you-- yes, you-- were too shy to take the initiative. Because somebody you know was watching. Because somebody you don't know was watching. Because you didn't know what to say. Because you were scared of getting shot down, and having to slowly writhe in agonizing flames of humiliation as you slunk back to wherever you came from.

All understandable reasons-- that will get you absolutely nowhere in the world of love, romance & procreation. You can be shy again after you've successfully introduced your charming and lovable self. If a girl gives you some eye contact and a little smile and you don't follow up, you deserve to go home a hardleg*. She did her part, but you didn't do yours. Chances are the lady fully identified your shy nature and kind of liked it. But you're never going to get a chance to know unless you take the initiative to lock, close range, and engage.
-Khergit Deserters, Misser of Many Opportunities (Retired), Married Shy Guy
*Paraphrasing real estate investment informercial guy Tom Vu: "If you don't come to my seminar, you deserve to stay poor."
Surfin's PlunderBunny
Sebiestor Tribe
Minmatar Republic
#79 - 2012-12-19 21:03:17 UTC
Khergit Deserters wrote:
Miss Piggy wrote:
Khergit Deserters wrote:
Le Badass wrote:
Telegram Sam wrote:
In America at least, Starbucks. It's the natural habitat of the many American females. Just sit in there half an hour and see how many beauties come in. And as opposed to clubs, the atmosphere and music volume level is such that you could actually have a conversation.
So true! I was in the states this fall and visited a Starbucks near one of the colleges in Charleston. Ho-lee-fark is all I have to say. That being said, here's my advice to the OP: Stop looking at the women, start looking at yourself. Work on the following: - The way you carry yourself. Stand straight, chest forward and lift your gaze. Don't look down, don't hang your shoulders. - Don't avoid eye contact. In fact, challenge yourself to keep eye contact every time you talk to a woman. - ... And when you do have the conversation, express yourself in absolutes. Whether you're right or wrong in your opinions isn't that important. What's important is that you have opinions which you firmly believe in. It says something about you. And as others say, get out. You need to interact with women to hook one, and in order to interact, you must frequent places where women of interest can be found. Initiate contact. They're genetically hardwired to wait for you to do it, and they generally think that men who don't are weak. Finally, have a good time :)
Confirming that this is all true. Especially about initiating communication and maintaining eye contact. The message/content of the greeting is in what you communicate with your eye contact. It doesn't matter that much what kind of gibberish your lips are saying, in the beginning at least.
Would work way better if wimmins eyes were like 1cm above their nipples. Men are shy they need incentive.

Unfortunately, shyness won't get you anywhere. All it will get you is a lot of missed opportunities. Where somebody kind of liked you and actually wanted to meet you, but you-- yes, you-- were too shy to take the initiative. Because somebody you know was watching. Because somebody you don't know was watching. Because you didn't know what to say. Because you were scared of getting shot down, and having to slowly writhe in agonizing flames of humiliation as you slunk back to wherever you came from.

All understandable reasons-- that will get you absolutely nowhere in the world of love, romance & procreation. You can be shy again after you've successfully introduced your charming and lovable self. If a girl gives you some eye contact and a little smile and you don't follow up, you deserve to go home a hardleg*. She did her part, but you didn't do yours. Chances are the lady fully identified your shy nature and kind of liked it. But you're never going to get a chance to know unless you take the initiative to lock, close range, and engage.
-Khergit Deserters, Misser of Many Opportunities (Retired), Married Shy Guy
*Paraphrasing real estate investment informercial guy Tom Vu: "If you don't come to my seminar, you deserve to stay poor."


Define this term "hardleg"

It interests me Pirate

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Eurydia Vespasian
Storm Hunters
#80 - 2012-12-19 21:07:29 UTC
Khergit Deserters wrote:
Unfortunately, shyness won't get you anywhere. All it will get you is a lot of missed opportunities. Where somebody kind of liked you and actually wanted to meet you, but you-- yes, you-- were too shy to take the initiative. Because somebody you know was watching. Because somebody you don't know was watching. Because you didn't know what to say. Because you were scared of getting shot down, and having to slowly writhe in agonizing flames of humiliation as you slunk back to wherever you came from.

All understandable reasons-- that will get you absolutely nowhere in the world of love, romance & procreation. You can be shy again after you've successfully introduced your charming and lovable self. If a girl gives you some eye contact and a little smile and you don't follow up, you deserve to go home a hardleg*. She did her part, but you didn't do yours. Chances are the lady fully identified your shy nature and kind of liked it. But you're never going to get a chance to know unless you take the initiative to lock, close range, and engage.
-Khergit Deserters, Misser of Many Opportunities (Retired), Married Shy Guy
*Paraphrasing real estate investment informercial guy Tom Vu: "If you don't come to my seminar, you deserve to stay poor."


^this is a cute post