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Wife Aggro (100mil ISK contest)
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Dersen Lowery
The Scope
#21 - 2012-12-05 17:49:52 UTC
For us, it's spouse aggro. Sometimes she gets me while I'm playing EVE, and sometimes I get her while she's playing Guild Wars 2. And, of course, there's a certain gleam in the eye that makes you want to dock up and log off ASAP.

Works out fine.

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Aurelius Valentius
Valentius Corporation
Valentius Corporation Alliance
#22 - 2012-12-05 17:56:30 UTC  |  Edited by: Aurelius Valentius
Jame Jarl Retief wrote:
Kyle Yanowski wrote:
"Honey.... Do you want to watch this movie with me? Come spend time with me."


You reply with "Coming, light of my days!" and go and watch the movie. It's really that simple.

But if you absolutely do not want to choose between your significant other and a game (and it's not really a choice), your best bet is to get your significant other involved in the same game as you. That way you can have quality time together and still play games. This, pretty much.


I am glad they had cloths on or I should have suspected SONY would have nuked the forums... odd I could see two monkeys doing the same thing on computers if given the same situation... maybe there is something to EVEolution after all?
Anslo
Scope Works
#23 - 2012-12-05 18:02:06 UTC
Kimo Khan wrote:
Wife aggro: I am playing eve. My wife comes in wearing very little and asks, "So when you going to be done playing?" I look at her and say, "Logging off now!"


That's OP. CCP needs to nerf wife ganking.

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Cpt Bunny
The Scope
Gallente Federation
#24 - 2012-12-05 18:20:45 UTC  |  Edited by: Cpt Bunny
I get "Wife Agro" too, but not in the usual sense.

My Wife Loves Eve online, But she has the Hand eye co-ordination of a over excited Tribble. I love playing eve, and i DO so frequently, but when i actually want to do something else and take a little break, I get no end of grief. If im not playing from dinner till bed time she pouts, moans and whines, so much so, it puts me off doing anything with her, nevermind Eve.

The last time this happend i said to her, "Look, you have been watching me play this for 6+ years. Why dont you actually take a shot and go Belt Ratting (lived in 0.0 Period basis at the time).

30 min later, As i finally Notice the distinctive Silence and that she might actually be ratting, She starts screaming at me, OMG OMG PIRATES !!!111 WHAT DO I DO?

By the time I pause watching "Cast Away" and get back over to the PC, It was too late. My character had lost his ship and been podded.

I say to her, "ahh dont worry about it. It happens. exciting wasn't it ?" And return to watching my movie. She was almost shaking, i thought it was an extreme over reaction too.

The next day i had a look at the Loss Mail. She had taken my shiney new Legion (2 weeks after they were added to eve) with its cargo hold full of the faction mods i had intended to use on it. and fitted it with 2 small lasers, 4 plates and 4 shield mods.

The Sanshas Wept.......


She hasn't been allowed near eve since.




P.S. This Character was made for her 6 years ago, but was adopted as my alt lol.
silens vesica
Corsair Cartel
#25 - 2012-12-05 18:21:24 UTC
Kimo Khan wrote:
Wife aggro: I am playing eve. My wife comes in wearing very little and asks, "So when you going to be done playing?" I look at her and say, "Logging off now!"

Or more devious, sneaking up behind me and rubbing a bit of soft, warm, and friendly anatomy across the back of my neck.
I've been known to entirely forget to log-off.

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Jet Burns
The Gold Angels
Sixth Empire
#26 - 2012-12-05 18:25:12 UTC  |  Edited by: Jet Burns
My wife calls eve... "Eve that BlTCH"

When I was a noob, using a mining destroyer in the belt I would take a quick afk shower and be back before the rats killed my ship. Until that one time she jumped in the shower with me. I came back to a pod in a belt next to a wreck.
Lanrick
Aliastra
Gallente Federation
#27 - 2012-12-05 18:44:29 UTC  |  Edited by: Lanrick
I wasn't in eve at the time but I was playing DAoC when I got married. Pretty much had to stop playing games of any kind for 4 years. "He choose poorly" She turned out to be completely insane. I don't mean "well sure, all chicks are a bit crazy" crazy. I mean "Doctor's got a name for it" crazy. Always watch out for signs of crazy and never voluntarily date crazy, crazy cannot be fixed.

About two years in I picked up SWG (pre-cu,pre-nge, speeders had just been released.) OMFG!!! I could not have gotten more heat had I strangled the cat with my bare hands in front of her kids. She. Freaked. Out. Never mind I had a full time job as a DBA and was contracting another 15-20 hours each week programming java, she simply hated it when I wasn't working. And no, it wasn't because I wasn't spending enough time with her. The contracting I did from home and I would have willingly given it up.

I tried hard to figure out what she needed from me and in the course of that it came out that she had been diagnosed in the past as BPD. Eventually it turned to her lying, stealing and cheating. At that point I cut her loose. Even her own kids, teenagers at the time, wont have anything to do with her now. I am the one who gets called grandpa, gets called at births and goes to birthdays parties.

Aw well, that was the sad story of aggro that couldn't be avoided. But fortunately most women are not that kinda of crazy, they are just the "I don't understand her" crazy which really isn't crazy, just confusing. That, can be overcome. Really it boils down to learning what it is she needs. You need to take the time to learn what it is that works for your woman. Some like for you to do things that help them out. Some like it when you say nice things to them. Some like it when you give them things. Some like it when you touch them, not necessarily sexually, just holding hands or sitting right next to each other. Some like it when you simply spend time with them. but then you need to figure out how they like to spend that time. Some see spending time as talking. Some as doing something together. others just like for you to be near. You could be playing eve from your laptop as long as you did so from the couch next to her while she did something else. And chances are she will like all of these things to a certain degree but one of them really, really speaks to her. That's what you need to figure out.

The point is this. Different women need different things. And men are the same way. First, don't assume that because you like something that everybody likes that the best. Second don't assume that because your last girlfriend needed gifts that your current one does as well. Your current one might like a gift but because of the way she grew up might see things done, the hunnydos, as real love. The third point is that just because she likes it doesn't mean it pushes her buttons. No wife is going to hate it when you fix things around the house or when you give them something but it still might not be what she "wants" to hear, or feel.

The goal of relationship is not simply to figure out how to not **** her off. Is playing eve 2 or 3 hours a night the problem? probably not. You could be spending your time much worse. Drinking, gambling, there is a lot you could be doing that wastes more money and takes up more time than Eve online. Eve is usually only the problem if that is what you happen to be doing when she feels like you are ignoring her and she will feel ignored if you don't figure out what it is she needs. Be proactive. Just like you probably had to be to get her to go out with you in the first place. Figure out what she needs from you and make sure she gets it. Yes, it is that simple. Not easy, but in principle, pretty simple.
Casirio
Aliastra
Gallente Federation
#28 - 2012-12-05 18:49:36 UTC  |  Edited by: Casirio
my gf (of 4 years) does give me a little aggro every now and again, but I just say "we have to kill the bad guys they are invading our system" or something along those lines and she is like "i think YOU are the bad guys..Roll) and I'm like no, of course not.. She has her own hobbies and we are generally in the same room so its not like I completely isolate myself :P
Rath Kelbore
Caldari Provisions
Caldari State
#29 - 2012-12-05 19:00:11 UTC
Lock the door/Headphones on = problem gone.

I plan on living forever.......so far, so good.
Kyle Yanowski
Malevelon Roe Industries
Convocation of Empyreans
#30 - 2012-12-05 21:32:41 UTC
Some of these posts are brilliant. Keep em coming =) I'm going to keep the contest open for 24 hours. Purse is now at 200 million.

o/

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Grey Stormshadow
Sebiestor Tribe
Minmatar Republic
#31 - 2012-12-05 21:36:57 UTC
Just tell your wife that eve is serious business and that you get money from every second you sit there.

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Sal Trent
Petrolinvest
#32 - 2012-12-05 21:49:52 UTC
ArmyOfMe wrote:
Well a eve friend of mine came home to find that his wife had sold his pc cause she was pissed as heck at him playing eve all the time.Lol


And that ladies and gents is when you call a divorce lawyer Lol
destiny2
Decaying Rocky Odious Non Evil Stupid Inane Nobody
Rogue Drone Recovery Syndicate
#33 - 2012-12-05 21:58:07 UTC
Dont need a wife or girlfriend , Im already married to Eve-Online and she's as expensive as a reg GF or wife is only difference is she doesnt nag you when to spend money on her ShockedLol
Lord Calus
The Scope
Gallente Federation
#34 - 2012-12-05 22:07:55 UTC
Dyvim Slorm wrote:
I took up wife swapping - swapped mine for a new graphics card.

Best decision I ever made Big smile


Right in the feels Sad
Sergeant Acht Scultz
School of Applied Knowledge
Caldari State
#35 - 2012-12-05 22:14:53 UTC  |  Edited by: Sergeant Acht Scultz
Kyle Yanowski wrote:
Most of us have been there. You are home from work, the kids are finally in bed, and you have a planned night of endless spaceship mayhem ahead of you... or so you thought. As you settle down in your computer chair, you hear a low whine emanating from the kitchen... or is it the laundry room (I joke... I joke...).

"Honey.... Do you want to watch this movie with me? Come spend time with me."

Sometimes it's not a whine at all... it's something much... much worse.

"You get your ass in here and spend time with me, or I'll kick that damn triple screen in."


If she has to ask you or tell you to do this you're almost lost or she's really really really an awesome lady and you don't deserve her anyway.

Lol

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Zack Korth
Livid CO.
#36 - 2012-12-05 22:20:47 UTC
Rath Kelbore wrote:
Lock the door/Headphones on = problem gone.


+1 like just cause the idea of actually trying that and visualizing my g/f, made me lol
leoplusma
Delfus Inc.
#37 - 2012-12-05 22:27:43 UTC
Jame Jarl Retief wrote:
Kyle Yanowski wrote:
"Honey.... Do you want to watch this movie with me? Come spend time with me."


You reply with "Coming, light of my days!" and go and watch the movie. It's really that simple.

But if you absolutely do not want to choose between your significant other and a game (and it's not really a choice), your best bet is to get your significant other involved in the same game as you. That way you can have quality time together and still play games. This, pretty much.


LMAO
Wacktopia
Fleet-Up.com
Keep It Simple Software Group
#38 - 2012-12-05 22:30:56 UTC
Just throwing it out there but maybe if your significant other is giving you grief because you're e-fiving your e-buddies over spaceship games that you should like... spend some time with them? Lol

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Troop101
Virtuous Reality
#39 - 2012-12-05 22:33:16 UTC
Wife: “You playing that stupid computer game again?!”

Me: “ You watching…. (picking one of the following)

1. All my Children

2. Days of Our Lives

3. General Hospital

4. One Life to Live

…on the DVD/TV again?!”

Wife: Silence

Me: Blink
silens vesica
Corsair Cartel
#40 - 2012-12-05 22:50:07 UTC
Two more points, aside from my previous about amorous interruptions:

The most frequent 'Wife agro' is "My farm is about to wither!" My canned response to that is "Get an EVE account - you can do PI. It's like farming, only with explosions!" Which response usually gets me a dirty look - She hates spreadsheets. She's been known to use her 'feminine wiles' at that point to seduce me away from the monitor. She knows my hot-buttons. Lucky me. Cool

The other is that while in the Nav, I learned to track multiple conversations AND maintain situational awareness all at once - Required skill, if you want to be in the middle of anything interesting on a regular basis. This means that I'm able to pay attention to the WH entrance I'm ambushing, the movie my wife is watching, the kids fighting, and the dogs annoying the neighbors. I'm even able to juggle responses to most of that while keeping my eyes and weapons on the WH. I feel like a puppet master, sometimes.
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