Out of Pod Experience

I'd say him getting hate mail is pretty normal.

As for the other stuff would you split up with someone for having a social life? and not talk to them after they say they were raped? its not cool bro, hes missing out on loads of good samaritan sex with her friends.

Not trying to be an internet white knight or anything, but a real man would've been there to defend his woman...

just saying...

So think I can get her number then?

Lovers quarrel between friends, to the video games forums! The problem ain't yours, stay out of it.

So this girl gets warned about the club, gets warned he will break up is she goes, she goes alone anyway, and hooks up with a random person there, and ends up getting raped for that ?

Ditch her was the right choice, I am afraid I have to say, even if everybody here gets mad about this oppinion.
If she would not been raped, she would been dumped anyway.
Why should her **** be mitigating circumstance ? It's an aggravating circumstance ! She can not comprehend how grave the situation, she way too careless in lifestyle choice.
Bad luck to be get raped and dumped because of stupid thing you done, but life is not fair.

But refusing to talk to her, THAT is harsh, at least at first sighte.
I think there is nothing good he can say to her that is not to be a LIE.
Instead of saying many platitude and pleasantry, clean break is the best option.


Of course, everything could be much more complicated compared to what you tell us, or his warning to her about the club have been for a different reason, then situation change.

Or wait until they grow up?


He had a gf that likes to party, go to clubs. He didn't want to go to clubs. They were a mismatch, but maybe young hormones got the better of him/them. Been there done that. Not that a couple needs to like everything the other does, hobbies or whatnot, things that one is happy doing alone, but going to clubs and parties is not a hobby but a life-style. And at that, it can be a very destructive life-style especially if pursued alone.

You can't change them, and it was doomed before it even started. She gambled and lost, and now she'll have life-long issues over it. Whether or not he was her bf, it may have still happened eventually, as has happened to girls I've known. Sounds like he would have dumped her anyway, if he had a spine, but even now it doesn't seem like being a **** victim is something that takes precedence over who she is or what she would rather pursue which doesn't seem to include him really; it's not something to build a relationship on in place of the other.

As for you, to take sides is to loose one of them as a friend, yes, but also in the long-run even both. You don't want to get caught up in the coming blame game, as is already starting with the hate mail, and will probably get worse aver time. Been there done that too, having at least one f-ing nuts gf once. Not saying she is nuts, but in such a situation it doesn't take much to push her over the edge, especially if she has a cheer leader squad backing here looking forward to the drama.

At what point can you expect the person to not want to have anything to do with you, if this isn't it? I just don't see how he's obligated at all.

This is one of those situations with no winners, only losers.