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Shameless Avenger
Can Preachers of Kador
#21 - 2012-08-18 21:09:34 UTC
Black Bill wrote:
This thread is win.

OP, why you getting aggro in the first place? That is the main question, I deal with my lady by treating her to a night out with a good meal and a nice bottle or two of wine. Sometimes I even go with her......


LOL... great punch line.

I have no idea what triggers aggro. I just tank it the best I can man. ATM, I'm not tanking any dmg type. I'm getting more of a silent treatment which is kinda like having an AFK Cloacker in system. You know GF is there, ready to uncloak and drop bombs on you.

I think females often do this for the LOLz.

"This is the Ninja. He will scan you down; he will salvage your wrecks and there shall be no aggro"
Bommel McMurdoc
The Scope
Gallente Federation
#22 - 2012-08-19 18:43:57 UTC
Just putting it out there....given the frequent EvE related thoughts you've been using .... Perhaps you play too much EvE online? Take her out somewhere? Go to the local watering hole, try your best to refrain from saying "I'm gonna gank that fat hippo in the water with my catalyst, if she doesn't stop eating that hotdog in the water!" and just have fun with your GF?

As humorous as it may be to read RL parallels with EvE. =)
Shameless Avenger
Can Preachers of Kador
#23 - 2012-08-20 02:25:21 UTC
Bommel McMurdoc wrote:
Just putting it out there....given the frequent EvE related thoughts you've been using .... Perhaps you play too much EvE online? Take her out somewhere? Go to the local watering hole, try your best to refrain from saying "I'm gonna gank that fat hippo in the water with my catalyst, if she doesn't stop eating that hotdog in the water!" and just have fun with your GF?

As humorous as it may be to read RL parallels with EvE. =)


LOL... actually I'm not playing EvE that much lately... maybe once a week I log in and check skills & sell orders. But you are right about the "getting out" thing. I need to get better at that. Kinda hard as I really don't like people or social events. But I shall try.

"This is the Ninja. He will scan you down; he will salvage your wrecks and there shall be no aggro"
Surfin's PlunderBunny
Sebiestor Tribe
Minmatar Republic
#24 - 2012-08-20 02:48:57 UTC
Shameless Avenger wrote:
Bommel McMurdoc wrote:
Just putting it out there....given the frequent EvE related thoughts you've been using .... Perhaps you play too much EvE online? Take her out somewhere? Go to the local watering hole, try your best to refrain from saying "I'm gonna gank that fat hippo in the water with my catalyst, if she doesn't stop eating that hotdog in the water!" and just have fun with your GF?

As humorous as it may be to read RL parallels with EvE. =)


LOL... actually I'm not playing EvE that much lately... maybe once a week I log in and check skills & sell orders. But you are right about the "getting out" thing. I need to get better at that. Kinda hard as I really don't like people or social events. But I shall try.


I've quit Eve 3x so far so it is doable Big smile

Now if you'll excuse me I have a skill to change

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Shameless Avenger
Can Preachers of Kador
#25 - 2012-08-20 02:59:09 UTC
Surfin's PlunderBunny wrote:

I've quit Eve 3x so far so it is doable Big smile

Now if you'll excuse me I have a skill to change


I've quit multiple times too. Helps for a while until you find a new hobby. See, females want to be our one and only hobby. They get jealous of any hobby you could possibly come up with. And I know some will say "my girl is not like that". Well, time will tell.


"This is the Ninja. He will scan you down; he will salvage your wrecks and there shall be no aggro"
Bunyip
Center for Advanced Studies
Gallente Federation
#26 - 2012-08-20 15:37:49 UTC
Yeah, in the 8+ years I've been playing, I quit Eve more times than I care to count, each time swearing it'll be the last. Then I go between 1 and 6 months, and I'm right back here. The depth of interest and mechanics involved consistently draw me back to the game.

Welcome to Eve: the Addiction.
Sin Pew
Ministry of War
Amarr Empire
#27 - 2012-08-20 15:51:24 UTC
Bunyip wrote:
Yeah, in the 8+ years I've been playing, I quit Eve more times than I care to count, each time swearing it'll be the last. Then I go between 1 and 6 months, and I'm right back here. The depth of interest and mechanics involved consistently draw me back to the game.

Welcome to Eve: the Addiction.
You never wondered why Aura's first words are "Welcome to your new life"?

[i]"haiku are easy, But sometimes they don't make sense, Refrigerator."[/i]
Drew Kaps
Pecuniam Enterprises
#28 - 2012-09-15 18:03:48 UTC
A bit of advice that my dad passed down to me that I'll share with you.

When you're in a relationship, you can be right OR you can be happy. Not both.

I don't know if this pertains to what you're talking about, but I just read gf aggro and tanking in the title and assumed the worst. Besides, I'm working on my third beer and its 11 am. Cheers!
Cuchulain Ulster
Republic Military School
Minmatar Republic
#29 - 2012-09-16 08:24:47 UTC
This is a complex issue.

Meeting someone in the first place is full of problems, then how do you know if you are really compatible? Then how does the relationship develop, what does it take to build a bond that will last?

Spending a life time together? How will your families get along? What about children?

And when a relationship fails how do you go about separating? Then staring the process all over again?

This hardly scratches the surface, the breadth; depth and complexity of interpersonal relationships in this modern world are well beyond most people’s ability to fully comprehend.

About four years ago I found a solution, but every thing is a compromise, every advantage must be paid for with some kind of burden or sacrifice. Many people will find this approach unpalatable.

My Solution; no girl friend, no lover, no romance, simply don’t ever have a relationship.

I realize that few (if any) of you will take this seriously. Also I know for at least a few (or perhaps many) people this is simply an unworkable approach. Be that as it may, I have found myself happier and more at ease then I ever was before. At this point I am so content with my solitude I can’t imagine allowing a significant other into my life to disturb it. I know, I know, this is hard to believe.

None the less I have found an easy, simple, and workable solution.

At least for me.
kerradeph
Aliastra
Gallente Federation
#30 - 2012-09-16 08:33:37 UTC
I feel this is relevant. http://i.imgur.com/4qPxz.jpg
Lupine Noir
Doomheim
#31 - 2012-09-16 21:10:01 UTC
Bunyip wrote:
Heh, you're lucky you're only tanking GF aggro. I've got a T2 GF - a Wife. Requires more skills and costs more, and also gives worse performance. Maybe a reprocessor could melt her down and get some Morphite out of her...


WTF?

I used to fly Frigat GFs that were fast and spikey... cheap, cheerful and, yes, fun...

Finally I switched up to a cruiser... more space, bigger, slower... more comfortable and jee whiz the firepower it packs...

More Skills.... you think being better skilled and better able to use them effectively is bad?
Costs more.... fine things are not cheap... often the greater the investment in a woman the greater the return.
Worse performance... ah... a stranger to the subtle art of non contact loving, foreplay and ensuring the satisfaction of your partner... as opposed to Wham... Bam... thank you ma'am... how was that for you?

You think there is a reprocessor that can melt her down... you've seen and believed too many Chipendale Ads
captain kikaz
State War Academy
Caldari State
#32 - 2012-09-16 22:10:40 UTC
don't have anything witty to say but this did make me giggle after a completely crap day.cheers mate
Bommel McMurdoc
The Scope
Gallente Federation
#33 - 2012-09-17 00:00:02 UTC
Cuchulain Ulster wrote:
This is a complex issue.

Meeting someone in the first place is full of problems, then how do you know if you are really compatible? Then how does the relationship develop, what does it take to build a bond that will last?

Spending a life time together? How will your families get along? What about children?

And when a relationship fails how do you go about separating? Then staring the process all over again?

This hardly scratches the surface, the breadth; depth and complexity of interpersonal relationships in this modern world are well beyond most people’s ability to fully comprehend.

About four years ago I found a solution, but every thing is a compromise, every advantage must be paid for with some kind of burden or sacrifice. Many people will find this approach unpalatable.

My Solution; no girl friend, no lover, no romance, simply don’t ever have a relationship.

I realize that few (if any) of you will take this seriously. Also I know for at least a few (or perhaps many) people this is simply an unworkable approach. Be that as it may, I have found myself happier and more at ease then I ever was before. At this point I am so content with my solitude I can’t imagine allowing a significant other into my life to disturb it. I know, I know, this is hard to believe.

None the less I have found an easy, simple, and workable solution.

At least for me.



as simple as it may be, it's a path to the lonely road. You can spend your entire life 'taking care of yourself" through the internet or dvd's. But, there is nothing quite like the thrill of the chase, there's a beauty to it really. Personally, I find that "taking care of myself" thing, quickly becoming boring and banal.

if you have social skills that are up to the task of actually going out and picking up a partner for the evening/weekend or simply making a new friend. It's always necessary to draw the battle lines before the next step happens. IE. This is me, take it or leave it. or another way is to simply follow the 4 F's and the latter is usually frowned upon. =)

Either way, it's harder to become a hermit than it is to actually say "hi" to someone.
Cuchulain Ulster
Republic Military School
Minmatar Republic
#34 - 2012-09-17 00:52:02 UTC  |  Edited by: Cuchulain Ulster
Bommel McMurdoc wrote:



as simple as it may be, it's a path to the lonely road. You can spend your entire life 'taking care of yourself" through the internet or dvd's. But, there is nothing quite like the thrill of the chase, there's a beauty to it really. Personally, I find that "taking care of myself" thing, quickly becoming boring and banal.

if you have social skills that are up to the task of actually going out and picking up a partner for the evening/weekend or simply making a new friend. It's always necessary to draw the battle lines before the next step happens. IE. This is me, take it or leave it. or another way is to simply follow the 4 F's and the latter is usually frowned upon. =)

Either way, it's harder to become a hermit than it is to actually say "hi" to someone.


I’m not a hermit, I spend lots of time with family and friends; it is romantic relationships that I avoid. This decision to avoid deeply intimate involvement with the fairer sex was not arrived at lightly. I got to a point in my life were I took a long hard look in to my interactions with women and how my life had been affected. The OP made several references to risk versus reward calculations. I did something similar.

I carefully weighed the amount of happiness versus turmoil my various love interests had brought in to my life. I found that I received only tiny portions of the pleasures that romance is supposed to bring. At the same time there seemed an outsized portion of burden. In essence romance filled my life with tumult, chaos, and misery while only rarely providing small amounts of the promised joy and happiness.

I came to the conclusion that by abandoning romantic endeavors; I would relieve myself of a ton of burden, and that casting off this painful burden would require the sacrifice of only a pennies worth of pleasure.

And so, that is what I did.
Bommel McMurdoc
The Scope
Gallente Federation
#35 - 2012-09-17 01:13:41 UTC
ah, my apologies, "hermit' may be the incorrect word I was looking for.

I'll be honest, I've been where you are. God, every break-up that didn't make sense, still haunts me to this day. But, I'll say this much, women can be bat-crap crazy (men alike), sometimes they never make sense. But at some point, you find one that does..... then you'll be willing to deal with any little issue you have. Gotta put that key into a lotta holes before you find the one that fits. heh (please excuse the sexist analogy, simply a quip)

I understand where you are coming from, but personally, I don't see this swearing off relationships thing being set in stone. Catholic priests can barely do it..... seen a lot of them quit the calling because of it.

all thoughts aside, I wish you the best of luck.
Cuchulain Ulster
Republic Military School
Minmatar Republic
#36 - 2012-09-17 08:20:13 UTC
Bommel McMurdoc wrote:
ah, my apologies, "hermit' may be the incorrect word I was looking for.

I'll be honest, I've been where you are. God, every break-up that didn't make sense, still haunts me to this day. But, I'll say this much, women can be bat-crap crazy (men alike), sometimes they never make sense. But at some point, you find one that does..... then you'll be willing to deal with any little issue you have. Gotta put that key into a lotta holes before you find the one that fits. heh (please excuse the sexist analogy, simply a quip)

I understand where you are coming from, but personally, I don't see this swearing off relationships thing being set in stone. Catholic priests can barely do it..... seen a lot of them quit the calling because of it.

all thoughts aside, I wish you the best of luck.



No need to apologize I understand that you intended no offence; I also understand that my philosophy seems very alien. The concept of coupling is ingrained into society. Dating services make millions annually. There are no models of positive solitude in popular media. It would be a kinky nightclub indeed that would invite you in to teach you the pleasure of being alone. This bias towards relationships is particularly true in American culture.

Understand that a person who is alone can experience any emotion, Joy, contentment, tranquility, even love. Just as a person who is surrounded by other human beings can also experience any emotion, fear, loneliness, anger, or hatred.

During my time in the military it was just about impossible for me to have any time alone. I worked with the other soldiers all day, and then when the duty day was done we all went home to the same barracks and in essence lived together. And never in my life before or since have I felt so isolated and alone as when I was there in the middle of that sea of humanity.

Now, that I have regular opportunities to be alone, I almost never feel lonely or isolated. I have plenty of time to spend with my friends whenever I want to, and plenty of time to myself as well. And I just don’t see how a woman fits in to this picture.

I’m not a young man any more, and I would not consider starting a family and having children now. So that takes reproduction out of the picture, but it seems that is the last thing on people’s minds when they seek physical intimacy. It appears that for most people the primary use of romance is recreational intercourse. As time went on I found less and less enjoyment in such things, perhaps it is a factor of getting older. In my case however I think it is more than just age.

These past few years my outlook, and attitudes have changed a lot. If I were to enter a relationship now I would not fully commit myself to it, I would always keep something of myself in reserve. In essence I would be ready to leave at any moment. And that just doesn’t seem fair to the other person, why should she waste time working on a relationship I don’t really want and will never be committed to? Her time would be better spent seeking and developing a relationship with someone that she could form a life long bond with. And if she is the kind of woman who is not looking for Mr. Right but is instead looking for Mr. RightNow. Well, I just don’t want to deal with things like that anymore, and there are plenty of guys out there for her to choose from that do.

So, just as there is no place in my life for a woman, there is no place in a woman’s life for me. This does not make me unhappy or sad, in fact I am quite happy with the situation. I feel very much that my life (this aspect of it at least) has turned out, as it should.
William Walker
Dark Venture Corporation
Kitchen Sinkhole
#37 - 2012-09-17 08:46:51 UTC
Start training up those scanning skills.

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Telegram Sam
Sebiestor Tribe
Minmatar Republic
#38 - 2012-09-17 17:07:40 UTC
Cuchulain Ulster wrote:
Bommel McMurdoc wrote:



as simple as it may be, it's a path to the lonely road. You can spend your entire life 'taking care of yourself" through the internet or dvd's. But, there is nothing quite like the thrill of the chase, there's a beauty to it really. Personally, I find that "taking care of myself" thing, quickly becoming boring and banal.

if you have social skills that are up to the task of actually going out and picking up a partner for the evening/weekend or simply making a new friend. It's always necessary to draw the battle lines before the next step happens. IE. This is me, take it or leave it. or another way is to simply follow the 4 F's and the latter is usually frowned upon. =)

Either way, it's harder to become a hermit than it is to actually say "hi" to someone.


I’m not a hermit, I spend lots of time with family and friends; it is romantic relationships that I avoid. This decision to avoid deeply intimate involvement with the fairer sex was not arrived at lightly. I got to a point in my life were I took a long hard look in to my interactions with women and how my life had been affected. The OP made several references to risk versus reward calculations. I did something similar.

I carefully weighed the amount of happiness versus turmoil my various love interests had brought in to my life. I found that I received only tiny portions of the pleasures that romance is supposed to bring. At the same time there seemed an outside portion of burden. In essence romance filled my life with tumult, chaos, and misery while only rarely providing small amounts of the promised joy and happiness.

I came to the conclusion that by abandoning romantic endeavors; I would relieve myself of a ton of burden, and that casting off this painful burden would require the sacrifice of only a pennies worth of pleasure.

And so, that is what I did.

Using logic-- this is not right! It's a crime against nature! How is the species supposed to reproduce and continue if people start using logic? Blink
Cuchulain Ulster
Republic Military School
Minmatar Republic
#39 - 2012-09-17 20:20:19 UTC  |  Edited by: Cuchulain Ulster
Telegram Sam wrote:

Using logic-- this is not right! It's a crime against nature! How is the species supposed to reproduce and continue if people start using logic? Blink


By cloning of course.

Seriously though you raise an interesting point.

Never the less I don’t see survival of the species becoming a problem; few people will adopt my approach. I’ve only met one other guy who has developed a similar out look. He is close to my age and is now divorced with children (could that be a TV show?).

I simply can’t envision young virile people adopting my philosophy. I can only expect that when some one reaches mid life they would adopt a similar out look (and even then few individuals would), while they were young they will have had plenty of opportunities to accidently (maybe even intentionally) produce children.

It has been my experience that natural laws enforce themselves.
Telegram Sam
Sebiestor Tribe
Minmatar Republic
#40 - 2012-09-17 21:56:47 UTC
Cuchulain Ulster wrote:
Telegram Sam wrote:

Using logic-- this is not right! It's a crime against nature! How is the species supposed to reproduce and continue if people start using logic? Blink


By cloning of course.

Seriously though you raise and interesting point.

Never the less I don’t see survival of the species becoming a problem; few people will adopt my approach. I’ve only met one other guy who has developed a similar out look. He is close to my age and is now divorced with children (could that be a TV show?).

I simply can’t envision young virile people adopting my philosophy. I can only expect that when some one reaches mid life they would adopt a similar out look (and even then few individuals would), while they were young they will have had plenty of opportunities to accidently (maybe even intentionally) produce children.

It has been my experience that natural laws enforce themselves.

I have a middle-aged friend who's adopted the same policy. (He's an American guy who's been a fishing boat captain around Guam and Saipan for years. Great life-- catch fish, sell some, barbecue some while you're enjoying a cold one. Just a side detail there). When I was about 35 and kind of had a career lined up, he said, "Alright, you made it this far without getting married. So now you're past the danger zone and don't have worry about getting stuck in that anymore." Well, it turns out I wasn't past the danger zone after all.... Was married by about a year later. Smile