Intergalactic Summit

It has been some time since I have revisited this issue since becoming a capsuleer, but I think that it is time to address the issue of sexual repression and the life of the capsuleer. I have found many (not all) capsuleers to be a bit sexually repressed due to the isolation of their lives. There is a paradox in sexual repression in that it often leads to promiscuity.

I have mentioned earlier that the Mystic Sensualists tend to be conservative when it comes to sexual consummation. The openness of our sexuality results is less being more. We find satisfaction in simpler expressions; a small touch, an admiration of face or body, a compliment given or received. In the community of Mystic Sensualists this balance and health is maintained through human contact. We are comfortable with our primary orientations while experience no threat or shame when we experience erotic enjoyment in the complimentary orientation (See earlier explanation). What happens when that community is lost as it often is among capsuleers? Repression may set in, especially if care is not taken to maintain human contact. Repression can threaten our spiritual health and also make us tend to compensate through promiscuity.

I have personally struggled with this since becoming a capsuleer. I have a primary orientation of heterosexual but am very close to center.
Heterosexual|--------------------X--|----------------------|Homosexual
This means that I appreciate female beauty more readily than someone with a strong heterosexual orientation. Being a capsuleer has moved me even closer to center. I find the sexual repression of capsuleer men to be an impediment to developing nurturing friendships with them. The social isolation of the capsuleer male fosters sexual repression leading to sexual aggression and a muting of the nurturing spirits. In my home community, this is not the case. I am not saying that there are no nurturing capsuleer males; there are. They are just more difficult to find and those aspects are more difficult to foster in men.

Caution and care is needed to maintain spiritual health. Sometimes I fear that I may send an inappropriate message to females to whom I am attracted. Female companionship is by nature more nurturing and less threatening. Not to be "cheeky" but one can spoon with a girlfriend without being concerned about the proverbial "jab" in the behind that might come with the repressed male, if you get my drift.

A message to men: there are female pilots out there who are rejecting you and seeking female companionship, because you lack subtlety and restraint. Perhaps you need to work on your feminine side a bit. Learn to make more of less, sexually speaking. Be patient. Show true care and less aggression.

Yes, I am a pig. I have totally never been caring or feminine or "soft" at all. I've never been supporting of my former partner and never rushed to her aid when she needed it most at all. Because I'm completely cold and uncaring and just want to bolster my own ego rather than spend the rest of my life with someone very important to me.

Yes. Totally.

Reset your overview to pick up "Sarcasm". Then hit "scan".

If you were at all aware of my recent past you'd speak otherwise. You'd also do well to shut your mouth before you say something you'll regret.

No, you aren't.

In the landscape of the mind the only horizons are those you visualise yourself.

My apologies for causing an argument. Rek, you are really one of the nice men. Deep down, I am only wanting to help create understanding among us as sexual beings. Perhaps I shouldn't have posted.

Me and Rek 'argue' in good spirits, Aguila. I actually found your posts a rather enlightening read.

I (and many others) have been saying this over and over in various forms for several years.

The so-called epidemic of "space lesbians" is due in large part to the severe lack of men (within the capsuleer community) that are worth getting to know beyond telling them to **** off. The frequent self-important, sexist attitudes are exceedingly unattractive, as are the constant measuring contests. (It's also worth noting that it doesn't help that in most cases, the very rare few that are worth getting to know are already "taken," so to speak.)

Something that seems to escape many men (again, in the capsuleer community): there's a reason we have a saying that "it isn't about how big it is, but how you use it." It's because it's true, and not just in a sexual context. It applies to your attitude, your ego, the way you carry yourself in public and how you treat others.

Whine all you like about the numbers of "space lesbians," guys. Just remember that you are the ones perpetuating the problem: if there were more of you that were worth getting to know (or date, or even more), more of us would be available.

As a (Heterosexual|X----------------------|----------------------|Homosexual) female, I still echo Morwen's points.