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EvE Online and Bullying

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Kithrus
Imperial Academy
Amarr Empire
#1 - 2015-03-06 01:26:09 UTC  |  Edited by: Kithrus
I gave a long thought about how I want to go about doing this, at first I was angry then I was baffled. I beg forgiveness of CCP but I think this is a discussion that needs to be had.

Three years ago I was in CVA with a friend of mine. He has Asbergers syndrome and has a habit of rubbing people the wrong way. I have my own mental deficiency which allowed me to understand this person as I too have issue socializing though not to the same degree.

Due to this CVA removed him and told him to go away and in order to enforce it they marked him red.

Now up to this point I understood. they just wanted him to go away. I understand though frowned in disapproval. At the end of the day this person has done nothing wrong to anyone in CVA to merit perma KoS status but apparently that's what happened.

Time wore on and I forgot though I wish I said something then. events transpired that gave me ownership of AM. This person called in a favor and I invited them into the alliance.

CVA swiftly respond by telling me to throw him out on his ear or be marked KoS.

Now for those of you who are snickering at this point the door is over there. Are they gone? Good, I hate that guy.

I understand people don't always mesh, I understand they don't like him but he never did anything to them. No heist, no leaking intel just annoying them.

No one in this game should have the right to bully anyone for out of game reasons into not flying with anyone.

I could get it if you want to keep one powerful person from teaming up with another in some cool meta game but this is strickly personal.

Its Bulling and Harassment and it needs to stop.

Ultimately I don't care about being KoS to CVA, ultimately I know CCP can't do anything but I feel the player base should know this story and decide for themselves how they feel.

If nothing else lest the truth is known now.

fly safe.

Darkness is more then absence of light, it is ignorance and corruption. I will be the Bulwark from such things that you may live in the light. Pray so my arms do not grow weary and my footing remain sure.

If you are brave, join me in the dark.

Valkin Mordirc
#2 - 2015-03-06 01:45:26 UTC  |  Edited by: Valkin Mordirc
Hm,


On this topic, I think CCP should tread lightly. EvE is a game about Villains. I've kicked people before just because I don't like them. Meshing poorly means poor teamwork, honesty.

DId Leadership talk to this guy? Was he warned? These are some key details being left out.


However there is a line, between Harassment and Bullying. And Harassment in EVE online. Can't really find a way to put it elegantly but there is.


Currently, I see nothing wrong with what happened here.
#DeleteTheWeak
Kaarous Aldurald
Black Hydra Consortium.
#3 - 2015-03-06 01:48:08 UTC
Much though I deride Provi, I have to agree with their stance on this one.

Getting rid of someone who has pissed off a bunch of your members is a normal, reasonable act. Enforcing it is a natural consequence of the responsibilities of leadership.

I fail to see the problem here, unless you think that his mental condition should give him a pass for his actions.

"Verily, I have often laughed at the weaklings who thought themselves good because they had no claws."

One of ours, ten of theirs.

Best Meltdown Ever.

Kithrus
Imperial Academy
Amarr Empire
#4 - 2015-03-06 01:49:48 UTC
Valkin Mordirc wrote:
Hm,


On this topic, I think CCP should tread lightly. EvE is a game about Villains. I've kicked people before just because I don't like them. Meshing poorly means poor teamwork, honesty.

DId Leadership talk to this guy? Was he warned? These are some key details being left out.


However there is a line, between Harassment and Bullying. And Harassment in EVE online. Can't really find a way to put it elegantly but there is.


Currently, I see nothing wrong with what happened here.


Again yes it was an issue with getting along fine. Following this guy around and trying to get everyone to spurn him?

step too far no?

Darkness is more then absence of light, it is ignorance and corruption. I will be the Bulwark from such things that you may live in the light. Pray so my arms do not grow weary and my footing remain sure.

If you are brave, join me in the dark.

McChicken Combo HalfMayo
The Happy Meal
#5 - 2015-03-06 01:50:18 UTC
CVA are bullies. Now I've read it all.

There are all our dominion

Gate camps: "Its like the lowsec watercooler, just with explosions and boose" - Ralph King-Griffin

Paranoid Loyd
#6 - 2015-03-06 01:55:05 UTC  |  Edited by: Paranoid Loyd
I don't see anything in your story about you informing your alliance you wanted to let someone in that has been marked KOS before you invited them, with all the asshatery, misdirection and deception that goes on in this game, I too would think you were up to something and give you the same ultimatum.

Either way I don't see any bullying going on.

"There is only one authority in this game, and that my friend is violence. The supreme authority upon which all other authority is derived." ISD Max Trix

Fix the Prospect!

Valkin Mordirc
#7 - 2015-03-06 01:56:29 UTC  |  Edited by: Valkin Mordirc
Kithrus wrote:


Again yes it was an issue with getting along fine. Following this guy around and trying to get everyone to spurn him?

step too far no?



Did they actually hunt him down?
Quote:

Due to this CVA removed him and told him to go away and in order to enforce it they marked him red.


You merely said he was Red and like all reds KoS?
#DeleteTheWeak
Kaarous Aldurald
Black Hydra Consortium.
#8 - 2015-03-06 02:00:31 UTC
Wait, here's a thought.

If you object to pointless, subjective rules that are enforceable only by shunning... why the actual hell are you in Provi?

"Verily, I have often laughed at the weaklings who thought themselves good because they had no claws."

One of ours, ten of theirs.

Best Meltdown Ever.

Unsuccessful At Everything
The Troll Bridge
#9 - 2015-03-06 02:09:21 UTC
Surely, if this was a thing, everyone favorite internet space detective would have picked up on it, and the Ripardmobile would have been dispatched for torch and pitchfork distribution duty in preparation for the storming of Provi.


I guess I fail to see how this is bullying. Then again, the word is thrown around so much nowadays that I doubt anyone knows what bullying really is anymore.

Since the cessation of their usefulness is imminent, may I appropriate your belongings?

Kithrus
Imperial Academy
Amarr Empire
#10 - 2015-03-06 02:10:09 UTC
Paranoid Loyd wrote:
I don't see anything in your story about you informing your alliance you wanted to let someone in that has been marked KOS before you invited them, with all the asshatery, misdirection and deception that goes on in this game, I too would think you were up to something and give you the same ultimatum.

Either way I don't see any bullying going on.


1) my alliance
2) the person in question want to make it up CVA somehow they won't let him. They are afraid of appearing soft and they want him on his own.

Darkness is more then absence of light, it is ignorance and corruption. I will be the Bulwark from such things that you may live in the light. Pray so my arms do not grow weary and my footing remain sure.

If you are brave, join me in the dark.

Jonah Gravenstein
Machiavellian Space Bastards
#11 - 2015-03-06 02:28:20 UTC
It's not bullying, it's refusing to having anything to do with people that associate with people that you don't like.

How does your friend rub people up the wrong way?

Make inappropriate remarks?
Fail to pull their weight?
Generally act like a knob?

I've seen people get fired from their jobs for all of the above, getting fired from an internet spaceships organisation is chump change compared to that.

In the beginning there was nothing, which exploded.

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Elyham
Perkone
Caldari State
#12 - 2015-03-06 02:52:12 UTC

Being blue to CVA and provibloc myself I find this situation to be appaling and shocking. This must be looked into right away!

Of course I will be too busy mining in EY to devote any time to this matter but I am sure justice will be done for this poor fellow.

Elyham
Director, Mining Buddy Program
Kithrus
Imperial Academy
Amarr Empire
#13 - 2015-03-06 03:06:46 UTC
Jonah Gravenstein wrote:

I've seen people get fired from their jobs for all of the above, getting fired from an internet spaceships organisation is chump change compared to that.


But most employers unless very vindictive don't go to your new boss and tell them they can't do business with them because they hired you.

Darkness is more then absence of light, it is ignorance and corruption. I will be the Bulwark from such things that you may live in the light. Pray so my arms do not grow weary and my footing remain sure.

If you are brave, join me in the dark.

Sibyyl
Garoun Investment Bank
Gallente Federation
#14 - 2015-03-06 03:16:45 UTC

CVA can do whatever intolerant thing they want (provided your story is true). However, by continuing to function in CVA you are giving tacit approval of how they operate. If you don't like it, let them know how you feel and then leave.

Life is too short, and EVE is a big game.

Joffy Aulx-Gao for CSM. Fix links and OGB. Ban stabs from plexes. Fulfill karmic justice.

Paranoid Loyd
#15 - 2015-03-06 03:18:11 UTC
Kithrus wrote:
Paranoid Loyd wrote:
I don't see anything in your story about you informing your alliance you wanted to let someone in that has been marked KOS before you invited them, with all the asshatery, misdirection and deception that goes on in this game, I too would think you were up to something and give you the same ultimatum.

Either way I don't see any bullying going on.


1) my alliance
2) the person in question want to make it up CVA somehow they won't let him. They are afraid of appearing soft and they want him on his own.

So you feel that them not wanting to give him a second chance is bullying?

"There is only one authority in this game, and that my friend is violence. The supreme authority upon which all other authority is derived." ISD Max Trix

Fix the Prospect!

Kithrus
Imperial Academy
Amarr Empire
#16 - 2015-03-06 03:27:58 UTC  |  Edited by: Kithrus
Paranoid Loyd wrote:
Kithrus wrote:
Paranoid Loyd wrote:
I don't see anything in your story about you informing your alliance you wanted to let someone in that has been marked KOS before you invited them, with all the asshatery, misdirection and deception that goes on in this game, I too would think you were up to something and give you the same ultimatum.

Either way I don't see any bullying going on.


1) my alliance
2) the person in question want to make it up CVA somehow they won't let him. They are afraid of appearing soft and they want him on his own.

So you feel that them not wanting to give him a second chance is bullying?


Sibyyl wrote:

CVA can do whatever intolerant thing they want (provided your story is true). However, by continuing to function in CVA you are giving tacit approval of how they operate. If you don't like it, let them know how you feel and then leave.

Life is too short, and EVE is a big game.



I feel like everyone is missing a point here. We are not in CVA, in AM, my alliance AM which is a separate alliance told on no uncertain terms to ditch the guy they don't like or be made red and lose any benefit of providence should I chose to go there and be under fire if I encounter CVA and ally gangs.

This is about CVA trying to pressure me to cast my friend adrift cause they don't like him.

Not for in game reasons, not for tactical reasons...

Personal reasons.

Darkness is more then absence of light, it is ignorance and corruption. I will be the Bulwark from such things that you may live in the light. Pray so my arms do not grow weary and my footing remain sure.

If you are brave, join me in the dark.

Sibyyl
Garoun Investment Bank
Gallente Federation
#17 - 2015-03-06 03:32:40 UTC  |  Edited by: Sibyyl
Exile for personal reasons does not constitute harassment or bullying.

Edit: I'll add that your reputation is a very real part of the game. Your friend, as far as CVA is concerned, has lost his Provi priviledges. I'm not sure you're telling us everything that happened for him to be in this position. Either he should find a different part of space to make his EVE living, or he can attack, infiltrate, or use the myriad tools (ie: alts) EVE has for him to put himself back in Provi.

Joffy Aulx-Gao for CSM. Fix links and OGB. Ban stabs from plexes. Fulfill karmic justice.

Paranoid Loyd
#18 - 2015-03-06 03:56:46 UTC  |  Edited by: Paranoid Loyd
Forgive me for not acknowledging my mistake in saying "informing your alliance", I understood the situation after you pointed that out. But it doesn't change anything. It's their space, the reason is irrelevant.

Also as Sibs mentioned, rep has a lot to do with choices of who you allow in your space and this guy has obviously gone pretty far over the edge as to what is acceptable.

The fact that he has Aspergers doesn't really change anything. I have employed people in RL with the syndrome and they were still required to act acceptably and if they crossed the line they were dealt with the same way anyone else would have been dealt with, sure there was a bit more consideration in defining acceptable but there was still a line. Equal opportunity (which is pretty much what you are saying if they don't provide they are bullies) 1) works both ways & 2) is in no way required in Eve nor does it equate to bullying.

The fact that they told you to kick him or get kicked yourself is perfectly valid. You have chosen to associate with someone who has been marked red and as a result you should be marked red. Again, the reason is irrelevant.


Also, damn sibs, you have mastered that character creator. You are absolutely beautiful and that pose is both provocative and intimidating. 10/10

"There is only one authority in this game, and that my friend is violence. The supreme authority upon which all other authority is derived." ISD Max Trix

Fix the Prospect!

Leto Thule
Caldari Provisions
Caldari State
#19 - 2015-03-06 04:26:23 UTC
There is no bullying in a video game. At all. Ever.

If you feel threatened, upset, hostile, or bullied... simply logoff and dont play anymore. Boom. No more bullying.


Real bullying means being picked on at school, or other places where you cannot remove yourself from the equation. Its not even YOU that is the subject of said bullying, its an avatar. A fake name, for a make believe universe about stealing, fighting, trickery, scamming, etc.

What a goddamn joke.

Thunderdome ringmaster, Community Leader and Lord Inquisitor to the Court of Crime and Punishment

Leto Thule
Caldari Provisions
Caldari State
#20 - 2015-03-06 04:27:26 UTC
Paranoid Loyd wrote:

Also, damn sibs, you have mastered that character creator. You are absolutely beautiful and that pose is both provocative and intimidating. 10/10


Ill second that.

Thunderdome ringmaster, Community Leader and Lord Inquisitor to the Court of Crime and Punishment

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