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Parents: How are you playing Eve?

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Mark Munoz
The Scope
Gallente Federation
#81 - 2014-08-21 02:45:01 UTC
I found these quite entertaining. I had a little boy shortly after I started playing and I stopped logging in for about a month. At that time I was a night owl. So I set a deal with the wife that I would have baby duty between 7PM-3AM. So he would go to sleep and I would play and would just go AFK once or twice a night to change and feed the little guy. He is over 2 now. I am not so much a night owl any longer, and my usual routine for the last 6 or so months is Inventions. So I will login when I get home from work and just be AFK. If time permits I will jump on see whats up set some more inventions, market orders, etc.

On weekends I like to try to carve out around 3 hours for EVE actual fun time but the last 2 months or so not even that has happened. Oh well, that is why I love EVE so much. I can still feel very much part of the universe while not feeling like I am being left behind by not being able to grind all day.
Juan Diolosa
The Dark Space Initiative
Scary Wormhole People
#82 - 2014-08-21 18:44:40 UTC
James Amril-Kesh wrote:
Juan Diolosa wrote:
so I called her and told her to log into my account

Not the best idea to be admitting this on the forum.

pssshhh....
Whipple Shai
God is great Beer is good People are crazy
#83 - 2014-08-21 18:47:19 UTC
I started playing when my kids were 23, 24 and 26. Big smile

No problems.
Mina Sebiestar
Minmatar Inner Space Conglomerate
#84 - 2014-08-21 19:11:05 UTC
While gf stayed homee some year and a half my gaming was non affected for most part after she get back to work gaming time is impended for eve but I find other games with fast but revarding pvp as well as uber pve thing is while I can spend 30min jumping freighter around playing fool bashing d scan,

For same amount of time I can colonise few planets run war on 2 fronts and establishing aliance with another, researching I intergalactic propulsion for trade ships to use and pauze the damn thing if my kid or gf want to devote some time for them.

Ie there is time for eve but there are other games too that if you happen to like em will give you more bang for a buck, time vise especially.

You choke behind a smile a fake behind the fear

Because >>I is too hard

Rayo Atra
THE AESIR.
Hostile Probes
#85 - 2014-08-21 22:54:54 UTC
It is difficult, but I manage.


http://i.imgur.com/wTZT80y.jpg

Tell you what I do like though: A killer. A dyed-in-the-wool killer. Cold-blooded, clean, methodical and thorough.

-Jean-Baptiste Emanuel Zorg

GandolftheWhite
THOU SHALL NOT PASS
#86 - 2014-08-22 12:20:59 UTC
Whipple Shai wrote:
I started playing when my kids were 23, 24 and 26. Big smile

No problems.


^^

I've known adventures, seen places you people will never see, I've been Offworld and back. I've stood on the back deck of a blinker bound for the Plutition Camps with sweat in my eyes watching the stars fight on the shoulder of Orion. I've seen it, felt it!

Felicity Love
Doomheim
#87 - 2014-08-22 12:24:04 UTC
Pro Tip (I have 4 kids): NANNY.

Carry on.

Blink

"EVE is dying." -- The Four Forum Trolls of the Apocalypse.   ( Pick four, any four. They all smell.  )

flakeys
Doomheim
#88 - 2014-08-22 13:14:34 UTC
Trash Candice wrote:
My little one just turned two, and -- while I've stayed subbed since she's been born -- I haven't really been able to meaningfully engage with the game this whole time. I've settled into a pattern where I keep my skill queue filled. I do some light industry, and I do my hauling at night after she's asleep.

I do have these dreams of a glorious future where I and daddy's little scouting alt go traipsing through the vast reaches of space, but I don't know realistically how far off that future is (if ever).

Since this game has been around long enough for folks to have had families and children, I thought I'd ask the community:

Did you stick around through the early parts of childhood or did you take a break?
If you stuck around, what did you find you were able to do to keep you interested and engaged?
At what ages or developmental milestones were you able to expand the scope of your play? What did it entail?
Did you ever introduce you kids to Eve? If so, at what age and with what restrictions?

Thanks in advance folks!



Got 2 kids , 8 and 5 currently and playing eve for 10 years now Only way to combine it is play when they sleep but as you know being a working parent can be tiresome so the times you do play you usually only play for 1 to max 2 hours.

So that's how you do it play casually , don't get involved in corps/alliances where your presence is required too much and just do what you feel like when you log on.Be it roaming low-sec for an hour , updating some market orders or a few lvl4 missions.Basically you can enjoy about every aspect of eve playing casuall unlike what a lot of people claim to not be possible .

We are all born ignorant, but one must work hard to remain stupid.

Bullock Brawn
Doomheim
#89 - 2014-08-22 13:16:28 UTC  |  Edited by: Bullock Brawn
I have 5 kids (12 to 29)

1) Family first (Wife, kids, you (Eve) ... in that order)

2) EVE =

TwistedQuit your corp if you're in one.
CryGet up early (5 or so AM) and play exploration, etc..other solo things
Big smileRemember EVE is a game and it will keep.
PirateIf anyone tells you otherwise.... they are just trolling.

otherwise, stop playing until they become less interested in you.... games like EVE are obsessive and need to be monitored, really!

Congrats on the family.... it's a cool ride, and far more exciting than any game.
flakeys
Doomheim
#90 - 2014-08-22 13:18:35 UTC
Kaarous Aldurald wrote:
My daughter likes to watch when I suicide gank.

But she has gotten me killed on this character a fair bit, oftentimes in embarassing fashions because she wants to try and play the game if I leave the chair for more than a few moments.

But eh, it's no biggie, I am just glad she doesn't lick windows or try to kiss electric sockets like some of her cousins do.


My sons where having a blast watching the AT last weekend.They asked me to stream it to the big tv so they could watch it , was fun seeing them sitting there watching eve fights while eating a bag of chips Blink.

That is untill mom came in and ruined the day , as per usuall Smile.

We are all born ignorant, but one must work hard to remain stupid.

flakeys
Doomheim
#91 - 2014-08-22 13:30:42 UTC
Serene Repose wrote:
I didn't play any game but Parenting for twenty+ years. I don't see how anyone could possibly pursue a gaming interest, properly maintain a household and raise children at the same time. I see people claiming they're doing it all the time. I have serious doubts. What makes this very difficult is how the economy has devolved into a form of economic slavery requiring two spouses to work in order to make ends meet. (I think my sleep went back to normal around three years after the last one moved out.)

I'm not going to go into a morality/sociology diatribe about it. Unfortunately, like designer coffee, parents get to raise their kids "how they see fit" in this world. That's often a mask for "not raise them at all"; fast food diets, parking the offspring in front of the Cartoon Channel...then we laugh at generations that can't find their own state on a map. To each his own. You're free to ruin your progeny after your own image. My ultimate view is - you can't raise kids and seriously game. Impossible. One or the other will suffer.

Love Child - The documentary



Yes you can , unless you want to play 9 hours in a row.I don't know any parent who isn't relaxing in the evening when the kids are in bed.Be it watching tv , reading a book or gaming , everyone needs to relax a few hours in the evening.If all you do is work and take care of others then you have a ****** life in my view.

We are all born ignorant, but one must work hard to remain stupid.

BoBoZoBo
MGroup9
Quantum Cafe
#92 - 2014-08-22 13:43:17 UTC
In a very methodical manner.

I have the same situation as you pretty much. It is not just the kids, but the wife as well. She is just as aching for time once the kids are indisposed.

First opportunity you have is nap time. But hat also comes with sexy time so there is not much time left for eve other than some in-station tasks of short travel. If not, it is work or other day-chores.

Next opportunity is bed time. Which follows the same pattern as above. Normally EVE time fits in afterwards and I will sometimes take it into the late night, getting me a solid 4-5 hours. This is limited, since littles ones don't give a flying frack about letting you sleep in.

Outside of that it comes to time management. I tell the wife I can either have a guys night at a strip club, or a night of playing eve, so that buys me blocks of time as well. Luckily, she is cool and gets the play-style that comes with EVE anyway.

I definitely do not have the time I had a few years ago, but it is manageable if you want to make the time for it. Of course, it comes at the price of doing other things.

Primary Test Subject • SmackTalker Elite

Talvorian Dex
Deep Core Mining Inc.
Caldari State
#93 - 2014-08-22 17:54:04 UTC
Trash Candice wrote:
My little one just turned two, and -- while I've stayed subbed since she's been born -- I haven't really been able to meaningfully engage with the game this whole time. I've settled into a pattern where I keep my skill queue filled. I do some light industry, and I do my hauling at night after she's asleep.

I do have these dreams of a glorious future where I and daddy's little scouting alt go traipsing through the vast reaches of space, but I don't know realistically how far off that future is (if ever).

Since this game has been around long enough for folks to have had families and children, I thought I'd ask the community:

Did you stick around through the early parts of childhood or did you take a break?
If you stuck around, what did you find you were able to do to keep you interested and engaged?
At what ages or developmental milestones were you able to expand the scope of your play? What did it entail?
Did you ever introduce you kids to Eve? If so, at what age and with what restrictions?

Thanks in advance folks!


I have a 3-yr-old and a 1-yr-old, and I only started playing again after the 3-yr-old was born. With two toddlers, I play only in the evenings now. Mostly after my wife goes to bed; from 9:30 to 11:30 is when I tend to play. On the weekends, I can do longer at night, but I'm out of commission during the day times regardless. I still don't have a problem plexing both of my accounts.

Writer of Target Caller, an Eve Online PvP blog, at http://targetcaller.blogspot.com

Talvorian Dex
Deep Core Mining Inc.
Caldari State
#94 - 2014-08-22 17:56:16 UTC
flakeys wrote:
My sons where having a blast watching the AT last weekend.They asked me to stream it to the big tv so they could watch it , was fun seeing them sitting there watching eve fights while eating a bag of chips Blink.

That is untill mom came in and ruined the day , as per usuall Smile.



I hooked my laptop up to the TV with an HDMI cable and was watching the AT last weekend. My daughter was happy once I set up Hub Network via the Verizon app on my phone.

When my wife woke up from her afternoon nap, she took one look at the setup and shook her head.

Writer of Target Caller, an Eve Online PvP blog, at http://targetcaller.blogspot.com

Slade Trillgon
Brutor Force Federated
#95 - 2014-08-22 22:08:26 UTC  |  Edited by: Slade Trillgon
Trash Candice wrote:
Serene Repose wrote:
False dilemma troll


But hey, I'll bite.

Raising children and serious gaming are not the only two options. There's a whole continuum between these poles that is totally viable and healthy.

Counterexamples: this thread.

Protip to all the readers thinking about starting a family out there: ignore the abridged screed above.

Just because you have had a child does not mean that society demands that you don a hairshirt and hang yourself upon the cross of parenthood for the next twenty years. If you do not give yourself, your spouse, and your child the time and space to be complete human beings with their own opinions, relationships, and interests (including gaming) then you will all come out of the other end of next few decades physically and emotionally crippled. Make time for yourself. Make time for each other. Share your interests, but allow everyone to find their own way to engage. The rest is just bookkeeping.


Exactly. Also it is good to teach your children young how to entertain themselves, to be imaginative, to problem solve. All of which assist in giving parents time to do the things that need to be done...and rest, relaxation and recreation are part of the human condition. No need to do anything in excess, gaming or parenting.
Desimus Maximus
Deep Core Mining Inc.
Caldari State
#96 - 2014-08-22 22:15:00 UTC
It's called divorce.
Marcus Arelios
Blackjack Brigade
#97 - 2014-08-22 22:41:10 UTC
I learned a long time ago I have no interest in having kids. Dogs are as far as I go..... Although, sometimes they are a hindrance as well to gaming. Its too hard to keep playing when I have this face looking at me
Presidente Gallente
Dark-Rising
Wrecking Machine.
#98 - 2014-08-25 15:28:48 UTC  |  Edited by: Presidente Gallente
I am 48 and I have two sons at 7 and 9. I am playing EVE since March 2006. From my experience it's not really compatible with a family life. The usual time to play is at EVEning or weekend. But the weekend is mostly also limited to the EVEnings. EVEning means here late night mostly what will cause additional problems over the years: sleep deprivation. My wife is cool but the game isn't healthy for a relationship for a lot of reasons. EVE is time consuming depending what you do ingame. I am part of a great group of players focused on PvP. But I can't join all the acitivities and for years I have worked out my own independend style to play. Over the day I have to take care about my RL company. This gives me more freedom compared to an employee but to keep a company running well is a complex job.

EVE is a great game indeed but it makes life a bit more complicated. Due to the limited sparetime I want to play as much as possible but I have a familiy. And familiy must come first. We have a lot of activities but when you play EVE every day at night it will definitely affect your job and relationship negatively. This is a fact from my experience.

Additionally you have to understand that you are a model for your kids. My kids love playing Minecraft and all these games on my iPad. I had many discussion with my wife who has no interest in computer games. I don't share the opinion that kids should not play more than 30 minutes per day. That's totally stupid. You never would take away LEGO after 30 minutes when they have fun with it. But video games are more different ofc. I am playing video games since the first cabinets on the market. I watched thousands of hours TV. I must be a loser and nerd without a social life. Well, I am not Cool

But you have to take control over your kids behaviour, supervise them and limit their time depending on what they play. I am some kind of "Digital Super Dad" with all these computer and gaming skills but on the other side they see their dad sitting at EVE (the PC) all the time when he's at home. My wife hates it. I can understand this but it's really hard to break the routine because of EVE's concept. It's just too easy to log-in and once you are in combat and action there's no pause-button for kids- and wife-aggro. My wife and myself agreed that it's important to stay with the kids till they go to bed and that we also need time for us. I am honest: it works for a while but then I start to do "EVE beside" again till the next dispute. The game is addictive and for me it has become a part of my life because it's an intense hobby.

I am pretty sure that most of us with a family must have the same issues. Fact is: I will keep my sons away from EVE as long as possible. If they start to play EVIL-Online under 16 my wife would file for divorce. Big smile

The day has 24 hours. If this isn't enough we play EVE at night. SEX or EVE? Well, this is a good question. Twisted
Jenn aSide
Shinigami Miners
Already Replaced.
#99 - 2014-08-25 15:58:06 UTC
Desimus Maximus wrote:
It's called divorce.


Thus far EVE has survived 2 real wives (1 ex and 1 current) and 1 'common law wife' who was really just a sidechick who left her toothbrush in my bathroom. EVE is Real Eternal.
DeadDuck
Hostile.
PURPLE HELMETED WARRIORS
#100 - 2014-08-25 16:29:47 UTC
Trash Candice wrote:

Did you stick around through the early parts of childhood or did you take a break?


I continue playing EVE when my son born. Sometimes you have to go afk but it was easy. TBH it was when my social life melted (baby born) that I started to play EVE more and more since to nights out, cinemas ect etc started to be rare.

Trash Candice wrote:

If you stuck around, what did you find you were able to do to keep you interested and engaged?



TBH I continued to play focusing in what I was doing before. PVP.

Trash Candice wrote:

Did you ever introduce you kids to Eve? If so, at what age and with what restrictions?



Yes. I created a character to him when he was 10 and soon after he started to play side by side with me. Today he is 14 and we continue to play together focusing on PVP. Yep my original idea of creating a "isk slave" for me Oops backfired and now I'm stuck with a lazy grunt addicted on PVP in wich I have to pay him the damn ships and fits Ugh

TBH thats pretty much what we do. We go out together to find some fights and usually we die together. We even entered in a AT tournement together Cool

Regarding restrictions I locked him the convos and he was only allowed to be on TS when I was around.