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67 year old retired sub captain angry letter to son and daughters

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Opera Noir
Ministry of War
Amarr Empire
#21 - 2012-12-02 00:38:54 UTC
Oh man. You guy's make me sad. It is clear to me that this is mostly a personal problem of his own. What is he expecting to happen when he had a 'hand's' off approach to raising his children'? If you've never helped guide them through life or tell them what you think they ought to do, do you really expect them to appreciate that you may have advice and knowledge to offer them later on in life? If' he has spent their formative years being a career oriented penis for their 'benefit' instead of actually establishing a relationship with the people who should arguably be the mot important relationships in his life,if he's relegated his wife to a mere accoutrement with which to decorate himself instead of considering her opinions on the matter, if instead of having the balls to actually talk to his children instead of broadsiding them in the local rag, then what possible justice exist on this mans side?

Does he honestly think his children are destroying their life merely to spite him, does he think they are happy? I don't imagine they are getting married and having children in hopes of failure. Quite likely they are failing to establish a good life that they've had no example for establishing largely due to this captains failure to establish it with his own wife and children. At least they are trying. Indeed their optimism in the face of this mans own failure and condemnation is pretty robust and heartening. I'd say their perseverance in pursing and establishing a meaning full life in-spite of this mans example and in spite of his crotchety 'ole cursing, regardless of their failures is commendable. At least they have the guts to try, maybe he managed to pass something to his children after all, more likely they had to develop their courage on their own though.
Rakael Kateloda
Caldari Provisions
Caldari State
#22 - 2012-12-02 12:57:14 UTC  |  Edited by: Rakael Kateloda
Having read that 'letter', I'm just glad to know that I have understanding parents who love me NO MATTER WHAT and go with me through ups and downs. While we're living thousands of miles and several countries away from each other, we're always there for each other. If I have a problem - who else to turn to if not to my parents? They also call me first if there is something that is going on over there. We listen, we are compassionate to each other, we sometimes get mad and then make peace...that's just life. We're simply working with the cards we're dealt with. Putting such high bars for his kids and being so thoroughly disappointed if they can't jump above it...I'm so happy HE's not my father. I'm sorry for the kids. They say that only parents and dogs love kids unconditionally. In this case it seems it's only dogs.
Harvister
Deep Core Mining Inc.
Caldari State
#23 - 2012-12-02 23:07:56 UTC
what ever opinion i have it wont matter because this story is very common everywhere. and there is allot of ways to approach this and give your opinion to this . but one thing i agree is that the grandchildren that may get affected by there parent's life.
Surfin's PlunderBunny
Sebiestor Tribe
Minmatar Republic
#24 - 2012-12-03 01:52:33 UTC
so who's that guy in the pink dress in the article?

"Little ginger moron" ~David Hasselhoff 

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Bane Necran
Appono Astos
#25 - 2012-12-03 03:23:38 UTC
Surfin's PlunderBunny wrote:
so who's that guy in the pink dress in the article?


Watch out. She might blame you for her unhappiness.

"In the void is virtue, and no evil. Wisdom has existence, principle has existence, the Way has existence, spirit is nothingness." ~Miyamoto Musashi

Surfin's PlunderBunny
Sebiestor Tribe
Minmatar Republic
#26 - 2012-12-03 03:26:00 UTC
Bane Necran wrote:
Surfin's PlunderBunny wrote:
so who's that guy in the pink dress in the article?


Watch out. She might blame you for her unhappiness.


Oh noes, then I'd have to listen to the whining and nagging Shocked

Though if she gets this pissy after an email she should be in here so I can make her HTFU Big smile

"Little ginger moron" ~David Hasselhoff 

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Onyx Nyx
Trillium Invariant
Honorable Third Party
#27 - 2012-12-03 10:26:11 UTC
Surfin's PlunderBunny wrote:


so I can make her HTFU Big smile


Says the guy, upset over the waiting period for a gun.

I kill kittens, and puppies and bunnies. I maim toddlers and teens and then more.

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Herzog Wolfhammer
Sigma Special Tactics Group
#28 - 2012-12-03 19:54:12 UTC

An ex girlfriend once sent a letter like that.

When I get letters like that I let the sender know I didn't bother to read it. That's the truth too, because such a missive on a piece of paper is pointless. Unless you have a weapon or control the purse strings of any situation (personal, government, societal - anything) you are not going to change a damned thing. Hence there are two benefits: you won't get bothered by such letters, and you would never end up wasting your own time writing one.

Never heard from her again. The price of the postage stamp was the best investment I ever made.

This is why my life is actually easier than it looks.

Bring back DEEEEP Space!

Surfin's PlunderBunny
Sebiestor Tribe
Minmatar Republic
#29 - 2012-12-03 21:07:10 UTC
Onyx Nyx wrote:
Surfin's PlunderBunny wrote:


so I can make her HTFU Big smile


Says the guy, upset over the waiting period for a gun.


The waiting period doesn't make me a disappointment to my family Twisted

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Zack Korth
Livid CO.
#30 - 2012-12-05 03:23:40 UTC
Would have been better to say, seeing it in writing, I would tell my dad to go **** himself, but hearing the things I needed to hear directly from him was much more effective I feel, and is probably the way I will raise my own kids. I know if he wrote some long shitpost about me being a failure, I would just be quick to point out his deficiencies and use them as a base for not listening to any good advice he might have had, and would probably top it off with a "**** you", but my dads not an idiot like this Crews asshat, so i'm not a disappointment.. in fact dude is probably just happy I don't ask him for money, they didn't have high expectations, I made it abundantly clear that I wouldn't be the gold standard for achievement unless someone wanted to pay me for playing my guitar. I stand by that still, motivation is a huge problem, real life jobs are just too boring. 8 hours a day? lol cmon thats like a 1/3 of your entire life, they knew I'd never abide.
Mark Munoz
The Scope
Gallente Federation
#31 - 2012-12-06 02:30:23 UTC
I am of the belief that 95% of your parenting is done from birth till around 10-14 depending on the child. You have that much time to teach them the core facts of life and equip them with the skills to learn the rest themselves. After that point a person becomes independent and no amount of talking will ever make up for the life lessons they will surely get by making mistakes. How they handle those mistakes and how they learn from them though is what is taught early on in their childhood.

This is just my belief however.
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